Post # 1
I’ve never been to an engagement party, but it sounds like so much fun to get our bridal party and families together to celebrate with some good food and drinks. My mom has offered to help us with the costs and two of my best friends who will be my maid and matron of honor are excited to help with planning. In the interest of keeping it low-effort and modest, the two location options I’m going in between are a local craft brewery/taproom (close proximity to the majority of the guests we’d invite, reasonably priced, but has a guest limit) and simply renting the amenities room in our condo building (still only a short drive for most guests, dirt cheap, but a very plain/boring space so I’d compensate with extra decorations). Is it tacky to have it in our building (two of my FI’s groomsmen live in the same building as us and his grandmother lives a 5 min walk down the street) versus an outside venue? Money is not really an issue as the taproom is very affordable, but still more even considering splurging on fancier food/drinks and extra decorations to spruce up the room in our building and I know my parents will want to contribute to lots of other aspects of our wedding so I want to be thrifty where possible.
For anyone that’s had/hosted an engagement party recently, what did you do? What are some things you wish had been included/could have been skipped? Thanks, bees 🙂
Post # 2
alliebear2289 : Congrats on the engagement!
I did not have an engagement party, but the ones I’ve been to have all been held at the couples house, or a parents house. I think you’ll be fine with either option, and I don’t think it’s tacky to do it at your condo.
The only thing I would worry about at your condo, is having to worry about neighbors being annoyed with any noise from the party. When I lived in a condo that had a clubhouse/party area we could use it for private events, but it was still close to the condos and we had a few complaints when we would be there later in the night. But, we’re a bit rowdy so I guess it depends on the crowd 🙂 Just something to think about, if you’re hosting it at a tap room that could change the vibe and you wouldn’t have to worry about people trying to get some sleep across the hall.
Post # 3
We had our engagement party at a French bistro 4 months after we got engaged. We were engaged April in Paris and didn’t see each other again til the following August because we were LDR back then. It was not a lot of people. Perhaps around 20 people. We only invited our imediate family and a few close friends. We had it at a private room with heavy appetizers and drinks. We brought a chocolate cake for dessert from an outside baker. For decors, the venue was already decorated so we just brought flowers in vases for centerpieces and mini Eiffel towers as favors. I don’t regret doing anything different. Actually, I’m the only person I know within friends/family that had an engagement party.
Post # 4
My future SIL had her engagement party at her mom’s house. She had pizzas and appetizers and it was super low key. It was great for everyone to meet eachother and celebrate. She also had her bridesmaids gifts and groomsmen gifts that they gave to officially ask them to be in the wedding party.
I think it would be great to have it in your building! Cheaper and it will be more private 🙂
Post # 5
Engagemet party doesn’t need to be a big fancy do. Either location and style will do just fine!
Post # 6
alliebear2289 : My mom threw my FH and I an engagement party in the summer. She hosted at he home in her backyard as a garden party. She took care of pretty much everything. Though I am a bit of a control freak, so I handled the invitations and made some extra food.
I have to say, we didnt need anything fancy and it was wonderful. It was a great way to bring our 2 families together. Everyone has a wonderful time and we had a ton of food and drinks and good memories! I think it was an amazing way to start our path to marriage.
I also decided that I wanted to have a number of my friends there, outside the bridal party. But since the crowd would be way to big, I decided to host a second party at my home for the younger crowd. I foolishly did this all in one day, afternono early evening garden party followed by a late night drinking party at my home. Totally exhausting, but honestly, it was so wonderful and brought me so much joy to be able to celebrate with not only family but all our friends as well!
Do it! All you need is food and some drinks! If you really want decor, get a cake and some balloons. It’s all you need, honestly!
Post # 7
I would much prefer as a guest to either have it at a house or restaurant.
Post # 8
We didn’t have an engagement party (we have a fairly short engagement and with all the showers my Future Mother-In-Law is insisting on throwing, an engagement party seemed OOT) but all the ones I have been to have been in the parents/couples/relative’s house. Like others have said, they have been very low key, just apps, snacks and drinks! I think your condo building will be fine, but don’t go too crazy on decorations. Just make it look nice! Have fun!
Post # 9
alliebear2289 : this is a very cultural thing, but in my culture a engagement party is a big deal. so I had one, it was about 60 people closest family and friends, and i had rented a room that belongs to a friends building so the rent was low. I ordered catering, A caked (but i amked mini cupcakes, small cups of pannacotta/cheesecake and such) For decorations i had order a bit fancier disposable plates, cheap vases for tables that i put in a small boquet of the cheapest flowers i could find (i managed to get a really large one of baby breath for a good price so i split it in tha vases i had) and slo i put in a sling of battery driven dew drops in each so it looked so nice! And a lot of candles and such.
I went all in but i tried to save money the best as I can so for a party with food, Dinks, decorations and so on (for music i used a spotify setlist and bluetooth speakers), the whole thing cost me about 3400 USD. If you ar einterested in seeing pictures and such send me a message 🙂
Post # 10
Thank you all so much! Super appreciate the comments and input. I’ll stop overthinking 🙂