Post # 1
Miss Manners says we should hold an engagement party no later than two months after the actual engagement, but we got engaged in October. Thats right around Midterms, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year 🙁 Now that it’s summer and things are settling down, my family is suggesting we finally have one. We’d have it in my parents large back yard, with casual food and we could bring our own alcohol. We wouldnt expect the cost to be too high. Also, more of our friends would be back in town from their respective colleges. We’d probably have it in June, which is about a year before the actual wedding. My mom things that would be perfect, since it be kind of a “One year countdown!” party, but I’m worried our window has passed. Is it still okay to have one?
In order for it to avoid looking like a money/present grab, I’d want to put on the invite, ‘no presents.’ Is it tacky to mention presents at all, even if its to declare that we dont expect any?
Post # 3
We got engaged on February 4 and our engagement party is this weekend. Like you, there was a bunch of stuff going on and it just wasn’t feasible until now. Plus, the party is in my hometown which is about six hours from where we are currently living, so we had to make sure we could go down for the whole weekend.
Post # 4
Thanks! Has anyone else put theirs off until past the ‘proper’ time to throw one?
Post # 5
You can def have one in June. One of my friends got engaged in February, had an engagement party in July and then got married the following August (13 months after the engagement party) and the timing seemed perfect! I got engaged in early April and will likely be having an engagement party in late July.
Post # 6
I think a lot of etiquette rules are silly, including this one. Have your party!
Post # 7
I was engaged in September and didn’t have an engagement party until March. Honestly if this is a rule then it’s one meant to be broken in my opinion.
Post # 8
Agree with dodgergirlcpkl. I got engaged during a June month (it was a while ago :P) and we first attempted an engagement party the following mid December, but a snow storm caused us to cancel, and ended up having it late February. I think you can have the party anytime you very well feel like it 🙂
Post # 9
Not at all, you’re still engaged right? 🙂
Post # 10
I thought the point of an engagement party was to announce your engagement? I’m not trying to be mean or anything, but I really don’t get the point of having one after everyone knows. Honestly, why do you have one then? I really do want to know. I’d love to have a party, but I thought that since everyone already knew, we had missed our chance? What’s the point of having a party now? Again, no sarcasm or anything, I really want to know since this whole engagement party thing is a foreign concept to me- I’ve never heard of anyone having one before WB.
Post # 11
We got engaged in February and are having ours this weekend. My family has to travel cross country so we had to wait so they could afford the trip. We’re using the party as a way for our families to meet and our bridal party to get together.
Post # 12
Thanks for all your help! Now I’m excited for our party!
@Mrs. Bear Cheese Pie: The point of an engagement party CAN be to announce your engagement, but the tricky part is finding a reason to get all those people together without announcing it already. For us, it’ll be more about getting together and celebrating with all the diverse groups of people we know and getting our wedding parties together 🙂 Also to re-build interest during a long engagement. Maybe this way, it’ll be easier to set aquaintences near each other at tables, since they might have had a chance to talk more during our party!
Plus, who needs an excuse to get people you love together!
Post # 13
@Mashiara: That’s true. I wish we could get our whole wedding party together now, so they could all meet, but two of my ladies are in different states. I think we’ll probably end up skipping the engagement party. Oh well. I hope you have fun at yours though!
Post # 14
I got engaged at the end of January and we aren’t having our engagement party until the begining of August. My brother got engaged a month before me and is in the Air Force so they are getting married this November and we are going to wait until October 2013, 2 wedding in two months is alot for one family; plus we are paying for it ourselves. But we feel with the wedding being so far away it will keep everyone interested in the wedding festivites and give the two families a good chance to get together and meet and mingle with each other as well as various family friends. I thought that I “missed my window” too, but then I thought to myself, I really don’t care; it’s my wedding and my money im going to do what I want. =)
Post # 15
@Mrs. Bear Cheese Pie: I agree, with all due respect I feel like it would be odd to have an “engagement party” so long after the actual engagement. Just my 2 cents. 🙂