- 8 years ago
As far as being “gift grabby” goes, we do not want anything. That is another reason why we want a surprise wedding- no gifts. Every engaged couple goes through parties and showers where people feel obligated to bring a gift- we don’t want this. We just went to 4 of our friends weddings this year and went to countless parties/showers for each one and we thought “why put our guests through this again when we don’t want anything?” If people knew we were getting married that day, they may bring a wedding gift regardless if we specify no gifts, whereas if we specify no gifts for the engagement party they may actually listen! lol
And thankfully, the only OOTers are my parents and his grandparents, who will def be there. Everyone else is within a 30 min drive!
1) my family specifically (aunts, grandmas, SIL…) are all control freaks, who will plan my wedding for me (even tho we are paying for it) and get mad if I don’t like something they do, don’t invite their friends that we don’t know, don’t do this and that, etc.. (grrr…!) and this way, only my parents will know and it will be easier to plan MY wedding without everyone elses input.
2)It will be fun trying to keep it a secret! lol but I will have a Maid/Matron of Honor, who already knows our plan and I can talk to about everything! 🙂
3) This will be more special to us because it was stressfree, everyone important to us will be there, and instead of people focused on all the decor, colors, etc.. it will focuse on the main goal: *two people coming together as man a wife!!!*