Post # 17
If you want to throw a party throw a party and not have it engagement related just a house party. You should never invite anyone to wedding related events and not the wedding. Also I miss read your poll and said no but it should be another vote for yes it is tacky.
Post # 18
I got invited to two engagement parties in college without being invited to the wedding. I was upset about it because I think when you’re in college, no one realizes how expensive weddings are and everyone expects to be invited to the wedding. So yeah, I vote to not having an engagement party or at the very least, make the party more casual.
Post # 19
Eh, I think if you do have a really small wedding at home and you won’t be able to nvite your friends, and they aren’t sticklers for ettiquette then yeah, I’d have the engagement party!
Post # 20
@sauerdragon: I’d say that you need to know your guests well enough to decide. Are they laid back people who won’t care about goings to the wedding? Then sure. Go for it. I would have like to invited my colleagues to our upcoming engagement party. However, we do not have space or money for them to be at the wedding, so I didn’t want to chance them being upset when they don’t receive an invite to the wedding. My thoughts are that if they want to celebrate my upcoming wedding with me, then they will plan something.
Post # 21
Thanks for everyone’s input! I actually realied that what @melonseeds:
said is probably right – they might be offended since none of them has had much experience with weddings before. I think I’m going to have a graduation party instead, and encourage my fiance to invite his friends just because the more the merrier
Post # 22
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Just call it a party- “graduation” if you feel it needs a theme. 🙂
Post # 23
@sauerdragon: I think it would be fine to have a party although I would be careful about labeling it an “engagement” party. Typically engagement parties are given by others, and only people invited to the wedding are included, plus gifts are a part of it as well.
That being said–these are college friends and much more informal. I would probably not call it an “engagement” party and I would specify NO GIFTS, so there is no question.
oops, just saw your update. Good call!