(Closed) Engagement party with college friends without invitation to wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is this tacky?



    Other (please explain)

  • Post # 17
    55 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    If you want to throw a party throw a party and not have it engagement related just a house party. You should never invite anyone to wedding related events and not the wedding. Also I miss read your poll and said no but it should be another vote for yes it is tacky. 


    Post # 18
    1646 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I got invited to two engagement parties in college without being invited to the wedding. I was upset about it because I think when you’re in college, no one realizes how expensive weddings are and everyone expects to be invited to the wedding. So yeah, I vote to not having an engagement party or at the very least, make the party more casual. 

    Post # 19
    804 posts
    Busy bee

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    @sauerdragon:  Eh, I think if you do have a really small wedding at home and you won’t be able to nvite your friends, and they aren’t sticklers for ettiquette then yeah, I’d have the engagement party!

    Post # 20
    314 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @sauerdragon:  I’d say that you need to know your guests well enough to decide. Are they laid back people who won’t care about goings to the wedding? Then sure. Go for it. I would have like to invited my colleagues to our upcoming engagement party. However, we do not have space or money for them to be at the wedding, so I didn’t want to chance them being upset when they don’t receive an invite to the wedding. My thoughts are that if they want to celebrate my upcoming wedding with me, then they will plan something. 

    Post # 22
    4192 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Just call it a party- “graduation” if you feel it needs a theme. 🙂


    Post # 23
    1768 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 1997

    @sauerdragon:  I think it would be fine to have a party although I would be careful about labeling it an “engagement” party. Typically engagement parties are given by others, and only people invited to the wedding are included, plus gifts are a part of it as well.

     That being said–these are college friends and much more informal. I would probably not call it an “engagement” party and I would specify NO GIFTS, so there is no question.

    oops, just saw your update. Good call!

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