(Closed) Engagement Party w/o Brides Family.

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Since it seems like your family will not be present at any wedding events (sorry!), I think it would be strange if your family DID attend the engagement party and then went MIA.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I’m sorry for the situation. I don’t think it’s weird to have an EP without your family there, if your Fiance and his family and your friends are supportive of you two – there is your answer.

It’s unfortunate your family decided not to take part but invitations are out and people are making plans so put on a pretty outfit, and stand as a united couple on your engagement party day and just have a good time with the support system you guys will have present that day, your Maid/Matron of Honor, his family and friends, etc.

You never know…and I don’t know the full situation obviously, but it’s possible that your family could change their minds at some point and want to be part of this journey with you guys. As my Fiance always says about our friends, “You don’t have to be blood to be family.” – It’s true – sometimes blood isn’t thicker than water. 🙂 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

@Cryssieshine:  you’re welcome 🙂 I’m sure it may be hard on you that day but try to think about the positives that outweigh the negatives. Everyone wlll be there to celebrate you two!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We had a similar, not the same, but similar situation with our engagement party. We planned it around his family, issues arose, and they decided not to come. My dad is sick, so he couldn’t come. So, it was our bridal party (close friends), my cousin came, and my mom came later (she had an event earlier in the day). Although we really didn’t have a lot of family there, we had fun and enjoyed ourselves!

Have fun and don’t sweat it too much. Its about you two, not everyone else. It’d be great if they could be there, but the marriage is between you two.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

For very different reasons, I ended up in a similar situation, my mom wanted to host a EP for us, but couldn’t afford to invite both sides of the family, then his family wanted to throw one, but wasn’t comfortable with that large of a crowd… 

Long story short, we had 2– one with each side of the family, neither was awkward.  Both were a lot of fun and had great memories. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Cryssieshine:  The EP is a time for people you love to meet… people who love you and are going to support you in your new life with your husband. Whether those people are his family, your family, mutual friends, or some homeless people off the street- whatever. Just enjoy the time with the people who are there to support, love, and celebrate you!!!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2005

Invite your friends as your “family.”
Otherwise no there is absolutely nothing awkward about just celebrating your engagement with your future husband.

Sounds like you have a great maid of honor! lol 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Your engagement party should be about celebrating you getting hitched to the man you love! Any one who can’t support you shouldn’t be apart of it anyway. If you’re surrounded by love, it’ll feel like family 🙂

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Most likely I’m going to have a similar situation, only reversed… my Family is supportive, but SO’s family is not. He believes that his Mom will disown him when he puts the ring on my finger. I’m so sorry you have to go through this! I don’t believe there’s any etiquette saying your family must be there, though.

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