Post # 1
I have just today booked a date for my wedding, it will be in 2016, but I have been engaged since 2011. I have not yet had an engagement party and was wondering if it is worthwhile having one or is it too late? I have quite a large family as does my fiance and half of them haven’t met and I don’t really want a wedding were everyone is just meeting for the first time and no-one wants to speak. I have read numerous blogs/forums that all say an engagement party should be within a few months to a year after the engagement, we have now been engaged 18months.
Just looking for opinions and any advice, I would really appreciate any and all advice.
Thank you in advance.
Post # 3
It’s something to plan early on so you’re not thinking about wedding planning for a while (since you have time to spare).
Post # 4
@chazza88: When would you have it? Your wedding is still pretty far out and your guest list might change quite a bit between then and now. Think about people you will meet in the next three years and people who you may have a falling out with. It does happen. I would just be worried because if you invite people to the engagement party, you should invite them to the wedding. So if you end up having a restricted guest list, that might put you in a pinch down the road.
If you did do a party, I would probably wait until you are closer to the 1 to 1 1/2 year mark of the wedding. But that’s just me. We aren’t having an engagement party, but that is what I would do.
Post # 5
Have one if that’s what you want to do, but I would have it closer to the actual wedding, I think. We didn’t have one.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
Most people here will probably tell you to go for it, PPs seem to have been doing that already ^^
If people IRL tell you it’d be uncouth then just have a family party! XD Parties are fun, there shouldn’t always need to be a reason! 🙂
I disagree with JayJayBee slightly, I don’t think it’s necessary to invite people to the wedding if they were at the engagement party (not that I’m an etiquette expert or anything). If it were a party “just cause” you woudn’t have that problem anyway lol.
Post # 7
Thanks for the advice 🙂 It is something I want to do, I just wasn’t sure if it was silly seeing as there is a date booked for the wedding and we have been engaged a while. I know of people that had engagement parties and then some of the guests weren’t invited to the wedding so I’m not so bothered about that too much. I really appreciate all your comments 🙂
Post # 8
@chazza88: We have a long engagement and decided to wait until it was a year away from the wedding and have an engagment party/ meet and greet. SOme of our wedding party and families dont know everyone so we decided to plan a bbq that kindof serves as a party for engagement but also to really kick off the year to come
Post # 9
I would say just have a big party. Deep down you can know it’s your engagement party, but you don’t need to label it, since people will judge!
Post # 10
I agree about having a party if you want to and not labeling it. I personally don’t really see the point of an e-party. I know some say it’s for people to get to know each other, but I’ve never been to a wedding where I feel like, thank god they had an e-party or I wouldn’t know any of these people. I feel like families get to know each other naturally.