(Closed) Engagement Phase?

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Member
1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Miss Sardine: I refused to answer any questions about wedding plans or start planning right away. Its funny how the minute you tell someone you are engaged, they bombard you with 1000 questions about your wedding plans. I made the mistake of telling my mom I like purple, then it immediately became my wedding color. I took 2 months before I actually got down and dirty looking at locations. If you have your dream location, I’d call that right away in case they book early just to see what kind of timeline you need. Everything else can wait.

I think its whatever works best for you! I’m not a planner and I’m surrounded by type A family members so I made it a rule just so we could enjoy our engagement for awhile. 

I’ve been engaged since August and I’m still in the love bubble. I planned a few things and I haven’t made any more decisions since November. Just enjoy yourself and plan when you are ready!

Happy Engagement! 

Post # 5
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I set a rule when we got engaged that we wouldn’t plan for 2 weeks…and then I just wanted to plan, plan, plan! ๐Ÿ™‚ But really, once we jumped into it, we booked a lot of the major things quickly, so now I’m back into a nice lull and I can casually look for little detail things that I like. If you’re not one to change your mind often, I see no problem in diving and and booking church/venue/caterer/photog/music. You can also lock in lower rates that way ๐Ÿ™‚ I very much have the ‘peace and focus’ you talk about after the big whirlwind of planning passed!

Post # 6
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266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

omg! I’ve been thinking the SAME thing! I have a few things done for our june wedding (we just got engaged right after Christmas) but I did wedding related things for weeks afterwards and got SO burnt out! My mom get hounding me, we talked every second of every day and I kept looking up stuff, then Future Mother-In-Law kept hounding me, saying we were going out to look at cakes, etc and going to go look at this, and that she was going to steal me to look at stuff (UGH! you have two, count them two daughters who will get married one day- CALM down!) and yeah I couldn’t stop panting. I got back home to start classes again and here I am right back where I started, continuously looking at wedding stuff, ignoring my classes, work, etc…even my Fiance sometimes because I’m obsessed. I keep thinking, “is it going to be like this for the next 16 months?! seriously?”  I’m right there with you!!!

Post # 8
Member
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

um yeah~ ditto! I should be writing my thesis proposal and looking up the natural histories of various species I’m supposed to research but NO, I’m here..looking up centerpiece ideas…trying to narrow down if I would rather use limes and apples or leave out fruit all together. 

Post # 10
Member
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I got engaged in early December and so far the only thing we have accomplished is selecting a date; even that was no easy feat.  It took about a month of convincing, my mom still firmly believes there will be a blizzard and my whole extended family will not be able to attend. I think we are going to start looking at venues through Feb & March and then book one sometime in April.  I’m very deliberate; I like to research all of my options and compare each of them so I’m enjoying this long process.  There is no pressure and I feel like I can make a fully informed decision about all the major vendors and continue to look pressure free at all the fun details  online. 

Post # 11
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I had a long engagement too.  I didn’t allow myself to really choose anything until about a year from my wedding because I knew I would change my mind.  I did rush and get a dress early and I wished I had looked around more before purchasing one.

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