Post # 1
I was wondering how you all feel about engagement photos? My Fiance are looking at our budget and we’re expecting to go over on the reception.. We want to get a good, experienced photographer which can cost a bit more. One thing we were looking at is whether or not it’s truly worth it to get engagement photos. What do you think?
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
@KHogan: I had always assumed we would get engagement photos done, but now that we are engaged, it seems like an unnecessary expenditure. I feel like any engagement photos we take woudl basically just get replaced by wedding photos, so we aren’t going to do it. Fiance hates having his picture taken, anyway.
Post # 5
We’re actually having a second engagement shoot next weekend because we loved the first one so much. we’ve decorated our home with them and will cherish them for years!
Post # 6
We had ours 2 weeks ago (getting them back on Tuesday, EEEKK!) and I’m really glad we did them. Fiance doesn’t particularly like having his picture taken, so as a result we don’t have very many nice pictures of us. We’re in Ottawa as well and used Ashley Notley (www.ashleynotley.com) and she was really great. At the time Fiance purchased my ring, the jeweller had partnered with her for a promotion, so the shoot was free! I think she charges $275-ish for an engagement shoot normally, but if you have her do your wedding your e-pics are free.
In short, yes, I think they were worth it (even if we had had to pay for the shoot) because we intend on using one of those pictures as our STD and also just for some beautiful pics if you and your Fiance comemmorating this really special time. To each their own, though.
Post # 7
Absolutely worth it… and see if you can get your wedding photographer to do it! I was SO self conscious about what I was going to look like on our wedding day, but our photographer took our engagement photos and I absolutely ADORE them and she really brought out my best and I didn’t look like the elephant I was expecting too 😛 Gave me the best dose of self confidence leading into dress shopping. I’ve written a much fuller explanation of why I think you should do them on a local wedding blog: http://www.polkadotbride.com/2013/05/why-engagement-photos-are-worth-it/
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! This is really helpful… tough sometimes knowing where to cut the budget or not!
Post # 9
We’re getting ours done next month. Talk to your wedding photographer about it. I fell in love with a photographer and was only going to do wedding and she threw in the engagement session for free! We have to pay for the rights to the pics but the services and travel fees were all waived! For us it will be worth it because we’re both not the biggest pic people so to have these pics will be awesome plus I’m using them for save the dates as well.
Post # 10
Im going to paste this post. Its a letter from a customer to a local photographer in my area and it changed my mind about pictures in general:
July 2nd, 2011
Today I am writing for a couple of reasons. I have some quiet time at the moment and need to get a couple of things off my mind. I will leave this for my husband to deliver to you when he is ready.
You photographed my wedding, you photographed my first pregnancy and my first baby. I contacted you awhile back to photograph my 2nd child and family. After getting prices and realizing I would want all of the pictures as we love your work – I decided against spending $500+ – which is what I normally spend for portraits and prints with you.. Please know it is not because I don’t value your amazing eye, or how much we love the experience.
That week that I decided to NOT do a session with you, this is how I spent some money.
On Sunday I called and cancelled our session. Monday I went out and got my hair cut ($39+tip), and colored ($65), Thursday I had my nails done ($24), my family went out to dinner at a somewhat expensive restaurant for no particular reason costing us $79 + tip. This was just 4 days since canceling our session, already totaling over $200 for un necessary things. My nails only lasted about 2 weeks, my hair is gone, and seven weeks passed when I got the phone call from our doctor. It was not something I expected and the cancer has spread very quickly. I will be leaving my husband, my 6 year old girl and my now 2 year old – not by choice. It is very hard for me to talk about it which is why I need to write you.
I watch your Facebook page and your posts about the value of a photo and if I could give back all of those things that I purchased this few weeks after I cancelled my session with you, knowing what I know now, and have that session, well… I would do it in a heartbeat.
Now my time is done and there are no more chances for me. The next time someone cancels a session – my wish is that you forward this letter to them. Time is fragile, it is gone before you know you had it. If you charged $200 for one print it wouldn’t be enough for what it is actually worth. I cringe to think that my priorities were a manicure over a memory to pass onto my babies and husband.
My love and thanks for what you have given us from past photos. I am so sorry that I did not see it as more than paper until now.
Post # 11
Our engagement shoot was included in the package we got with our wedding day photographer. I was initially dreading it but then decided it would be a good experience to practice poses, and to get more confortable with the photographer and being in front of the camera. We’ve had to cancel twice so far due to weather but I hope we get around to doing it soon since our wedding is in less than 4 months!
Post # 12
I’m avoiding the obvious reason of engagement photos being an heirloom, and a piece of history for you to show your grandkids when you’re telling them your “fairytale” and I’m sticking to slightly less obvious reasons to get engagement photos done. Engagement shoots are important because it is a chance for you two to get comfortable in front of your photographer’s camera, it’s a chance for you to bond with your photographer (surprisingly important for your wedding day photos) and most of all so that your photographer can get a chance to see how to best photograph you. Everyone’s face and body photographs different and it is helpful for photographers to get a chance to photograph you and your fiance before the wedding so that they can find the best angles for you and get you used to the way they work. Some people photograph slimmer from certain angles than others, and who doesn’t want to look thinner? Another good reason is because it will be an heirloom for you to keep forever. Wedding photos are fantastic, but after the wedding has worn off, it’s nice to have some professional photos of the two of you when you’re not in this big fancy dress… it’s nice to have some photos where you look like, well.. you!
One of my favorite reasons however to get engagement photos done, is this:
On the wedding day, you are running around like crazy, trying to get things done, chatting with family/friends, shuffling from one place to the next and don’t really even have time to breathe, let alone get a ton of pictures of just the two of you. When you’re planning a wedding, it’s easy to get tied up in the details, between work and planning, it’s easy get overwhelmed and busy, and start “missing” your fiance a bit. Engagement photos are a chance to get dolled up, have some fun and connect with them. Have a romantic dinner the night before, cuddle in bed over brunch and spend some time together before you get your photos done. Then when you do your photos it will just be like part of a romantic weekend and your love will show even stronger in your photos. Being able to have photos of the two of you so in love, just enjoying each other without the stresses of the wedding day, is a gift. Don’t deny yourself that!
PS: In a lot of cases, photographers include it in packages complimentary anyway, because they know how important it is.
Post # 13
I’m really a hard ass when it comes to money, and it’s even worse now trying to plan my wedding. My budget is crap so I have absolutely no idea what I will be doing for photography. My biggest issue with engagement photos is that it seems like you are showing off, and that is an image I personally don’t like to present. Neither my fiance or myself enjoy having our pictures taken, however, so we are probably just a stick in the mud 😀
Post # 15
Thank you all so much for your thoughts! After reading through all of your comments we’ve decided to go with the package includng the engagement shoot . Minae I agree sometimes people post a little too many photos of themselves (gets even worse when people start having children!) Anyway sounds like it’s a great way to develop confidence in your photographer for the wedding day. The wedding photos in the end are one of the most important parts of the day and we can’t wait to give it a “test drive” with the engagement shoot.
Post # 15
So glad to here you went ahead with the photos!