Engagement photos Yay or Nay?

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
1447 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’re getting our engagement photos done next month.

The staged/awkwardness can be a lot on the photographer, and if he/she is good they will work with you to capture more natural-looking photos.

Some people do very cutesy, posed stuff that they use for their Save-the-Dates and Thank You cards, but others just go out for a fun date (of sorts) and their photographer takes photos of them around town.

We don’t really have many photos of us together around, but it would be nice to have a pro pic of us dressed up and looking our best before we get all old, wrinkly and saggy.


Post # 4
1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We feel the same that you do about engagement photos, so it’s a nay for us. I don’t really see the point anyway, especially as someone who wouldn’t have fun with it. 

Post # 5
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014


Don’t see the point at all

Post # 6
749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I love ours!! 🙂 I wasnt a huge fan of gettingthem done, but was convinced when they said it was great way of getting to know how to work with your photogrpher, and get the awkwardness out of the way.. i was so glad we got them done in the end. They dont feel cheesy r overly posed at all 🙂


Post # 7
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I completely agree with you. They are just so cheesy and put on. I always cringe when I see couples who do them. No offense to anyone, just my opinion. 

Post # 8
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t think ours seem cheesy, but it might be personal bias. Though I do believe that some photographers do take cheesy photos. We had fun, and it was outside our comfort zone. I didn’t use them for save the dates. I just wanted them for us.


Post # 9
604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I really liked ours!  We used them for our save the dates, wedding website and our guest book (a photo book).  Also, I haven’t had pro photos done since high school graduation so it was good to get a feel for how it goes so that I don’t feel awkward on our wedding day.  But if you don’t want them don’t get them.  I don’t think many of my married friends did. 

Post # 10
3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We had them done for two reasons:

1) We were filling out an application for me to become a landed immigrant in Canada and the form asked for e-pictures. I was like “People DO this?!” and THEN realized it was big business.

2) So we were contemplating doing it only for the sake of the application and then it turns out a friend to Future Mother-In-Law was taking a photography course at a local art college and they needed newly engaged couples for training to take these types of photos. So we had three students dedicated to us and ended up with a couple of CDs full of photos for free.

To summarize the experience – posing was awkward at first, but got easier after the first 30 min or so. Some of the photos are crap, others I actually like. However, I would never have paid for it – not even for a pro photog. Photos are just not that important to me.

Post # 11
730 posts
Busy bee

I don’t see the point either. It seems like every couple years lately there is a new “must-have” thing that all couples are expected to do for their weddings, and it’s always expensive. First it was engagement photos, now everyone wants engagement videos and lately I’m seeing movie-style “trailers” for wedding videos. It seems like a bunch of nonsense to me (maybe because I’m introverted). I just want to get married and share a health insurance policy with my dude, not conduct a 3-ring circus!

Post # 12
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2001

I dont see the point this close to the wedding. Most people only use them for save the dates. I somewhat regret how much I spent on them,

Post # 13
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Our engagement session was included with the cost of the photographer.

We did our photos really close to the wedding, and I do not regret it. I don’t think we looked too posey/fake, and I attribute that to the photographer. When we were shopping around, looking natural was important to me.

For me, the best thing about doing the engagement photos was that we felt more comfortable in front of a camera, and felt more comfortable with our photographer. Sure, we were put into some really weird poses (ie: asked to look at each other with our foreheads touching–> Weird!) but when the pictures came out, it actually looked pretty natural.

If it’s not part of your photographer’s package, though, then … meh? If you’re comfortable around a camera and it’s not part of the package, then don’t bother paying extra, if you don’t want.

Post # 14
406 posts
Helper bee

The point is to build a working relationship with your photographer. Many of us offere them at no charge as part of a package to help get to know our clients and get to know their quirks on camera. It also gives you the chance to see what you both look like shot together. Engagement photos are only awkward or cheesy if you choose a bad photographer to shoot them. It’s not about an ” extra thing to make you buy.  Most of us do it for our own working relationship and comfort with a client. Who wants to go in to a wedding day with all that stress and hurry and try to figure out things? It’s a great practice session. 

Post # 16
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I feel the same way as you, but we still had them done.  Our photographer was great, so they were as “normal” as possible, but we still laugh about the cheese.  Basically it was included in the package, and we don’t have many shots of us together at all.  I’m actually kind of relieved to have some, because now I can put them on the wedding website or wherever.

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