(Closed) Engagement Pictures… Yay or Nay?

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Should I get engagement pictures?
    Yes! Use your wedding photographer, it will be worth every penny : (19 votes)
    43 %
    Yes, but use your friend- engagement pictures are engagement pictures : (16 votes)
    36 %
    No, you will get enough pictures at your wedding... save the $$ for your honeymoon : (7 votes)
    16 %
    Other... please explain! : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    7651 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @FutureMrsGG:  We had my Mother-In-Law do our engagement pictures because, well, it was free. Yes, we used them for a lot of things leading up to the wedding, but now they are almost non-existent. I can’t say that for every bride because every bride is different and some like having their pics.

    Mother-In-Law did a great job. It was nice to have her rather than a pro photog because one, we didn’t spend anything. Two, we got to keep all of them and got them immediately (instant gratification), and we didn’t feel posed or uncomfortable.

    For our wedding, we had someone else do them, and because she is an ameture photog, we paid her 1000 which was significantly less than what a pro photog would be paid, but we made sure to stalk her work becuase we entered a contract with her or anything. Style didn’t really matter to me when it came to wedding photos. I wanted someone who was willing to listen to what we wanted and how we wanted to be posed. Of course, she suggested some, but I didn’t feel stressed or fake in my photos.

    Post # 4
    3830 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Unless the pictures are included in the wedding package i see no need to pay anything additional for them.  I didn’t really use them for anything.  The wedding pictures are the important ones.  

    Post # 5
    686 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @FutureMrsGG:  My Future Mother-In-Law is doing our engagement photos, maybe you could ask a friend to do them or some photographers include it in their packages .. I do not think it is a big deal if you don’t have engagement pictures. 

    Post # 6
    8042 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    If you’re splurging on your wedding photographer, it might be wise to test the photographer out beforehand. If you’re spending thousands, then what’s another $350? It seems like a small price to pay to test the waters, since it sounds like the wedding photos are super important to you.

    That would be my only reason for getting the engagement photos. I find most of them to be super cheesy and embarrassing! Especially if you/your Fiance aren’t used to be photographed, it might make for better wedding photos if you’re more comfortable around the photographer.

    Post # 7
    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    We couldn’t use our wedding photographer, because we are having a destination wedding (sort of). We found an amazing local photog (we would have totally hired him for the wedding if we were doing a local wedding). We got incredible pictures together and they really make us happy everyday. It has made my camera shy Fiance understand how awesome photography can be!

    That being said, I love love love love photos. That’s probably why I love splurging on them. 

    Post # 8
    2625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I wasn’t going to get pics done but I went I saw two different engagement session photos that my sorority sisters had taken with their fiances and they took my breath away! Fiance and I were able to find a great photog for 2 hours, 3 locations, 3 wardrobe changes for $140. You really have to shop around, but since your friend can do it, I say go ahead and get the E photos!

    Post # 9
    2115 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @FutureMrsGG:  I wouldn’t have done engagement pictures if I didn’t get a free session. One of my moms coworkers is also a photographer and offered to trade camera time in exchange for crocheted baby photo props. Technically, I’m getting paid to have them taken. Otherwise,we probably wouldn’t have them.

    Post # 10
    182 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @FutureMrsGG:  I would go ahead and pay the extra $350 for 2 reasons.


    One, you will get to know your photographer more and get used to working with him/her. I’m not sure about you, but the last time I took professional photos was for my senior pic in high school at a portrait studio. Totally different and it was helpful to get comfortable with our photographer and get used to taking pictures without worrying about time like you will on your wedding day. There were also a few things that my husband and I noticed we did in our engagement pics that we were like “okay, make sure we don’t do x, y, and z at the wedding.”


    Two, it is nice to have good quality photos of you and your Fiance that have a more casual feel and you usually have much more freedom including outfit changes, incorporating your home, pets, kids, etc. We have several engagement pictures up in our house and we also used these pics for our save the dates.




    Post # 11
    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Hmmm I see where you are coming from on this one. I’m going back and forth myself here. I don’t think engagement pictures are necessary, but would be nice. I’d like to have a large picture of us at the ceremony, and have professional pictures of Fiance and I not in our wedding attire. I think having those pictures will give us options of hanging a few in our home as well as our parents.

    If that money could be better used elsewhere, go with your gut and have a friend take some pictures for you and don’t worry about paying a photographer for pro pictures.

    You can take such great photos now with the technology that we have and it’s so easy to make simple edits, a need for a photographer for this type of shoot doesn’t seem %100 necessary.

    Post # 12
    271 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I just had my engagement session and loved every moment of it!  I am all for budget friendly but I am excited to get a preview of how my wedding pics will come out.  I also got to know the photographers so I won’t be so nervous on the day of.  I also look at it as practice (ie don’t make that face, etc).

    I think it is a great opportunity to have engagement pictures especially if you are going to incorporate them somewhere in your wedding (our pics are becoming a guest book).  Do you NEED to have it through your photographer?  No.  Should you?  Possibly, it all depends on what you are trying to get out of the session.

    Post # 13
    1402 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I think engagement pictures are kind of a waste.  I’ve never seen e-pictures that looked natural or worth the money. 

    I would be content with wedding pics and the extra money for the honeymoon

    Post # 14
    847 posts
    Busy bee

    We paid $450 for our engagement pictures and did it for the following reasons.

    1) I am super awkward in front of cameras. I have a super angry resting face apparently, as I found out from being a bridesmaid over the summer. I wanted time to bond with our photographer and figure out what looks good on camera. I also what the photographer to get a feel for what we’re like, and our personalities.

    2) This is a special time in my life that I want to document. We’re both young, in love, and I want those pictures. We also don’t have any friends who are photographers to use instead, but I had a friend do that for her wedding to save money and it worked out great for her.

    Post # 15
    776 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I did it to test my wedding photographer – it was only $350 and he stuck around all night (no time limit). I really liked them because we got to take photos at the annual fair where we go every year.

    It was good practice for us – we don’t know how to “pose” so we look good, and we got the chance to meet the photographer and get comfortable around him. I created a photobook with the engagement photos to use as a guest book for people to sign.

    I think it was worth it, but to each their own!

    Post # 16
    7220 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We paid $100 for ours and it was worth it to us. We had almost no pictures together before our engagement pictures so that was our main motive.

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