(Closed) Engagement plan. Thoughts?

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I think that’s fine. πŸ™‚ It’s not like the actual wedding has to be on her birthday.

It sounds lovely.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It sounds like a great idea – and you came to the right place to ask. Bees – anything he can do to make it extra special?

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@tlookingforhelp:  if you’ve talked about marriage already, you can probably casually bring it up again and find out exactly what she wants. I told my Fiance what I wanted (i didn’t specify/care about the size because i didn’t know his exact budget) and it was no less romantic when he proposed with exactly what i had asked for. πŸ™‚

It sounds like from what you said that she wants the center princess cut to be a solitaire, so maybe if what you can afford right now is the moissanite and she said she prefers that anyway, go ahead and do the center in moissy instead of the quad. You can still do the side stones in diamond. up to you, obviously.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Hey Congrats  ! cant wait to hear your story πŸ™‚

If your Girlfriend is big on size , and if you can afford to get her something bigger then i say go for it ( but only if you can afford it) …

if you show us the ring she had before that would help lots … idk about the quads b/c its not really my taste , but from what you said if you guys havent spoken about quads then i prob wouldn’t look at those

Go with your gut maybe another 1ct certer stone with a slightly different setting to make it your own , or a plain solitaire maybe 1 carat or more then let her choose the setting with you that way she gets exactly what she wants ( your happy and shes happy)

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think the one you picked out is great! It certainly reflects her style and tastes if you compare it to other rings she likes, yet it is also alot different than her first ring. Her first ring has alot of metal on it, and the one you are considering has more diamonds. I think it is reasonable that you don’t want the ring you get her to be too similar to her previous ring! That isn’t selfish at all!

 

It sounds like you have put alot of thought into this proposal and it sounds wonderful. Good luck!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

@tlookingforhelp:  First, congrats!

Second, I wanted to warn you that if you look through these threads about quads or clusters, you’ll find that some women feel very strongly one way or another about them. Personally, I simply do not like quads or cluster rings and of course, would accept the ring, but would then secretly hate it too and then get flamed on WeddingBee when I rant about how I don’t like it at all. In fact, I would prefer a smaller single stone to a quad. I think you’ll have to gauge your girlfriend to see if she would like a quad before purchasing it. Like I said, some women love them, others hate them. To each her own.

By the way, I would love a birthday engagement but you should get her something other than the ring for her birthday too (I guess that sounds a bit gift grabby?). I feel like engagements are so much more than a birthday or Christmas gift but can be given on these days as long as it’s not the only gift.

Anyway, I wish you the best!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

@tlookingforhelp:  I am only in some ways shallow. I am just stating that I, personally, simply do not like quads. They are not my style. Like I said, to each her own.

I personally would have loved to have been blindsided by a proposal too.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would stay away from quads unless you know she would like one…can you somehow casually ask?

 

1. I love that you came to the ‘bee for advice. You should show this to her after the fact! You’ve clearly put a lot of thought into this. πŸ™‚

2. I like the idea of a birthday proposal. For me I wouldn’t need a second gift but I like the idea of it. If my Fiance had proposed on my birthday I would have peed my pants in excitement. I thought he was going to and I think he had the ring with him but proposed the following month.

 

Good luck and best wishes! AND REPORT BACK! πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@tlookingforhelp:  i would ask the jeweler to take out the ‘quad’ and buy it that way (saving a bunch of $) and then put a moissanite in as the center stone. best of both worlds, and you can always change the center stone to a diamond later if you choose.

 

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