- 3 years ago
I would like to share my story. I was inspired by several other posts on here about the girls waiting for proposal and such.
I never thought I would share this but I really need your opinion, this is not something I feel comfortable talking to even most of my friends as it is a a very delicate and private topic (for me)
So I am 27, I met my boyfrind 3 years ago (he is 36 now). when I met him I just broke up (amicably) with my ex and I wasn’t really interested in dating (I was 24 and somewhat carefree even though I have a very difficult personality). I have to mention, I never had long-terms realtionships before, my heart was never broken, I was very inexperienced and had high expecations. When we met he was (and he still is ) very serious , family-oriented and mature, he liked (and still likes) talking about marriages, how he would raise his kids and all that. I only warmed up to him after 3-5 months of dating (this is how I am, I never fall in love at first sight) but a year after I was deeply in love and we we already living together. The guy captured my heart. I am still in LOVE and consider him to be the best man for me.
During our first year of dating I was reluctant to talk about marriage, he, however, would often say that we will be married in 2 years, he quickly introduced me to all of his family and friends, he did everything the guy does when he is very interested in marriage. We also have pets which we both adore and he often says we are a family.
HOWEVER, we’ve been together now for more than 3 years, and we are nowhere near getting married. He had plenty of opporunities to propose (especially when we travel) and he talks to me about how much he likes destination wedding and discussed other people’s proposals (he likes creative ones)…but nothing.
He told me multiple times that I am the one, the love of his live and everything. I tell him that I love him constantly but I was never never the girl who would ask a guy about it (he knows 100% that I want to get married and all that jazz)
We are both financially stable, content and independent. We travel a lot together to honeymoon destinations…but no honey moon. I hope you get an idea..
So I am thinking maybe he doesn’t count the 1st year because half of that year I was still warming up to him…Or he is following the footsteps of his brothers (who both married after 5-6 years into a relationship)
What do you guys think?
I wasn’t worried about it too much (even though naturally I am someone who panicks a lot lol) but I saw a couple threads on here that 3 years is too long 🙁