(Closed) Engagement question, any opinions appreciated

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1257 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

He sounds very manipulative and controlling. It seems like a power struggle..”you can look but you cant touch”.  It doesnt make sense to be why he couldnt tell before sending out the email. That is very odd. If you dont mind me asking, how long have you been together? Also, has he been like this in other aspects of your relationship?

Post # 4
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2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You were being ridiculous and I agree with his assessment of the situation.

But he wasn’t being very nice, either.

It sounds like you either don’t know each other well or you’re very young and immature.

Post # 5
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1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Huh, obviously he should have copied you on that email when he sent it out, it is odd that he didn’t include you to begin with and then refused to send you a copy after the fact.  There isn’t any good explanation I can think of other than possibly a control thing as PP mentioned.  Sorry πŸ™

Post # 10
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2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@needhelp99:  Like I said, I don’t think he was handling it nicely.

But why do you need to read an email you helped craft? Why do you need to read all the email addresses? You said he did finally send you a copy without showing you the addresses.  I do think you crying was because you weren’t getting your way.

Your pushing and crying twice over it and him sayin “look but don’t touch” are all stupid.  

You didn’t need to see it, and I think your crying was overreacting and manipulating.  But he shouldn’t have kept you from seeing it, that was mean.  You both created something out of nothing.

I wouldn’t have asked to see it, but my SO would have sent it to me.  So we both avoid the fight, see what I mean?

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Talk to him. Maybe let it cool off for a little bit, but you need to be able to talk to him if you are going to marry him.

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