(Closed) Engagement Question

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I know a lot of people who have done that. My best friend got engaged in December and married in July. I don’t think there is anything wrong with it.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@impatientlywaiting20:  At the end of the day, it is YOUR wedding. Don’t let the thoughts and opinions of other people deter you from what you and your soon to be Fiance really want.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@arsing89:  +1

Forget about other people. It’s not their marriage, their wedding, none of that. If they get upset, BOO HOO for them. They’ll get over it.

Post # 7
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393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t think it’s strange or silly. Let him propose the way he wants and other people will deal! I should be engaged by the end of the year and we are having an intimate 20-25 guests wedding in June.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think that the engagement is primarily symbolic, so I think it’s a nice gesture if you both have talked about having a formal engagement. Many many people get engaged, and within six months get married. Heck, I have at least 10 friends who did, and my future SIL did, too — engaged in January, married in July.  I think your families might appreciate the heads up, so announcing an engagement would tell them that yes, you are officially planning to marry. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

I don’t think it is silly to be engaged just as you have a smaller wedding planned, and I also don’t think you should worry what others thing about it.

We got engaged in early-mid October and were married about 2 1/2 months later, in a very small, casual and intimate ceremony. No one ever gave us any hassle about not having a big wedding or anything of that sort (indeed, usually we had people quite excited for our plans even if it meant they were not invited).

However, if you don’t want to announce anything until after you are married, that is fine too! There were definitely a few people in our lives who did not find out until after we were married as they just were not close enough to us or in our lives enough. We really did not get any flack for it. Even my own dad (who I was not terribly close to at the time) found out after the fact, was quite congragulatory and did not mind not having known or been there. 

 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I wiould announce your engagement, it’s something to celebrate.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

We’re planning on having a small wedding (max 20 people) and we’re getting engaged. I think it’s a great reason to celebrate regardless of how many people are coming to the wedding!

Post # 12
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49 posts
Newbee

Get engaged, announce it (and show off the bling!!:) and have the wedding YOU want, the way YOU feel about it. Engagement is such a happy event that you shouldn’t “skip” it just because of what other people might think or expect.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s whatever you want. I was engaged for 5 months before our “semi-small” wedding. We only really let the people that we were going to invite know, aka, no Facebook posting, etc.

 

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