(Closed) engagement ring

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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2759 posts
Sugar bee

If you love your ring, then it shouldn’t matter what other people think. My e-ring is a pearl and a very unique design, but I love it because it’s what we picked out together and it is the symbol of our commitment to marry one another.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Just Engaged:  0.75c is a decent sized diamond. No one can tell you if your ring is too big or too small. It all depends on what you and your Fiance like and can afford. 

There is more to a diamond than just it’s size. Going for a high quality cut, color, and clarity can not only up the cost of the stone but also make it appear larger than a stone of the same size with lesser cut, color, or clarity values. 

Have you had people look at your ring and just say “Oh that’s cute”? or are you just worried this will happen?

Post # 6
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1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

No offense, but posts like this tend to be a tad annoying. No one on here is really going to say “Yes dear, your stone is too small. Swap it out for a bigger more expensive one.” I have a .50 carat and I think it’s perfect. Yes, I do get the random comments of “Oh, it’s so cute!” or “How simple and dainty!” which is fine because my ring IS cute and it IS simple. I also realize that there is a heck of a lot more to an engagement ring than the size. I could have been proposed with 1/10th of a carat and I would have still loved my ring the same.

Are you afraid it’s too small because of what other people say or have you always expected something bigger? If the size really bothers you that much, talk to your Fiance about getting a bigger one. But if your .75 carat is good cut and color, it will look bigger. Mine looks about the size of .60 because it is a nearly perfect diamond.

Don’t worry about what other people think. Who cares about them? This is YOUR engagement and if you love your ring and the person who gave it to you, that is all that matters.

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

FWIW, only a small handful of the women I know have a stone larger than 1/2 carat, and of that small handful I’d guess most are around the 1 carat mark.  I don’t think .75 is small at all, even on a larger hand it is still a good size.  No matter what size ring you get, you are always going to get comments you don’t like (cute, dainty, etc.) so don’t let other people being rude bother you one bit.  If it’s what your Fiance chose, he probably chose it for a reason.  

Post # 8
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That is a very good size I would say.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Just Engaged:  Just saw your last post.  I think it’s sad when people associate size with beauty.  I’ve seen large rings that are flat out ugly, and I’ve seen ‘tiny’ rings that are amazing!  Size and price tags have nothing to do with it.  Smile

Post # 10
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Depends on the area you live in. Around here that is above average. 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Just Engaged:  When you Fiance proposed with the ring, were you happy with it?

Did it start to bother you before people made comments? Or only after?

If you want more bling you can always get a blingy wedding band (or bands) or a wrap for your ring. 

It sounds like these people are either jealous or superficial (or both).

As long as you and your Fiance love it (and each other) that’s all that matters.

Post # 12
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8882 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

My ring is 0.43ct and I absolutely love it! My Fiance sometimes says he wishes he got me a bigger diamond but I tell him no way. I love it, it’s beautiful.

I told him ahead of time I didn’t want a big diamond, I would rather save the money and put it into our first home. Which is what we did 🙂

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@JM1217:  hahaha… agreed.

 Anyways, OP.  Are you happy with your ring?  Yes?  Then it’s big enough.  No?  Do something about it if your Fiance is ok with it.  At the end of the day … Who cares what people say?  If they aren’t paying for it, they can shove it for all I care!  Seriously.. if EVERYONE told you it was too small, would you bust the bank and spend more to get a new one?  Or are you confident enough in your choices to just brush it off. 

Is it too small?  No.  I think that’s a nice size.  Is it huge?  No.  Does that mean its a perfect size?  depends on what you want.

Post # 15
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522 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

.75 is very nice, but i too would much prefer 1 ct… 

That being said, i would never tell him that or ask him to change or upgrade it, ,even if he could afford it. I would let him know it is perfect because it is a simbol of our commitment. But I don’t get when people say… “mine is .25 and i would not have preferred anything else, it is wonderful” Errr… i’m sure if he would have proposed with 1ct your would prefer that! Even if there is a point where they’re so big that they look silly on a small finger, .25 is for sure not that point. Nothing wrong about admitting that.

I also have some issues about my ring, which i haven’t received yet. I am VERY picky and decided, and clearly pointed out what i wanted, specifying why… and still I kind of freaked out today when I asked about it and he said “It’s inspired by the ones you sent me pics of… and in essence it is the same”. I really wish it would be just as I had told him that I wanted…. Really don’t understand why he would go and do something else! But oh well.. I know the moment it is on my finger I will love it and forget about everything else.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@raspberrymacaron:  Honestly just because you want a larger diamond doesn’t mean everyone does. Some people don’t even want diamonds.

It’s fine to want a bigger stone, but don’t generalize and say that those who say they wanted an are happy with a small stone are lying.

Everyone likes different things.

I hope your ring, when you get it, is everything you want.

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