Post # 1
I’m new here! 🙂 The future fiancee and I went to look at rings today. He set a budget of $1,800 because he thinks spending more is ridiculous. He said that i’ll only be spending a couple hundred on his ring. I tried to explain to him that engagement rings are different! How are you supposed to convince them to stretch the budget a little, anyway?
Here’s the one I fell in LOVE with
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and here’s the one he likes because it’s a “Princess” ring. The only problem I have with this ring is that the center is clusters, not one diamond. When you see the ring in person though, you can’t really tell that they are clusters. However, when comparing it to the first one, it doesn’t seem like a fair fight.
Opinions? I mentioned I would not mind helping him pay for the ring, but he said that’s not my responsibility. It’s just frustrating because he makes $2,000 a month so it’s not like he can’t afford it. Should I just go with the $1,800 one? We also want to pay it all up front as opposed to a credit card.
Post # 3
#1 Def, maybe compromise on the diamond size? The setting is gorgeous and would make any diamond look awesome. Congrats on the upcoming proposal! (whenever it may be 🙂
Post # 4
Thanks @KEClark. That’s a good idea, I didn’t even think about asking if they could do that! And thanks for the congrats! 🙂
Post # 5
Both rings are soo beautiful!! do you think they could set the center in the in the second stone as a solid stone instead of the cluster? Or like the PP said before maybe a smaller center stone in the first ring? I hope you both come to happy compromise soon 🙂
Post # 6
TBH, I actually like #2 the best……but then what do i know, i have a cluster ring instead of one single diamond.
Post # 7
Each and every person will have a favourite. For me, it’s number 1 hands down. Like the ladies above mentioned, have a smaller centre diamond.
Post # 8
I absolutely think you should respect your FI’s budget. 2K a month is not that much, expecially after living expenses (rent/utilities/food/car payments & insurance), any payments on outstanding debt like student loans, and planning/saving for a wedding. In that income bracket, and when you’re getting ready to start a family, 1800 isn’t peanuts. It sounds (setting a budget, not buying the ring on credit) that your fiance is fiscally responsible–cherish that quality, don’t try and undermine it.
If you aren’t in love with the ring he likes, tell him (before he buys it! :), and keep looking together for something you like that will fit his budget. If you have your heart set on something more expensive, maybe compromise and settle on a token ring, something inexpensive with CZ instead of diamond, a placeholder for what you’d like in the long run. Then he can save for the expensive ring. Maybe take the picture of the one you really like from Kay and shop around other jewelers and on the internet for something similar.
Also on the Kay website, there are “clearance” and “previously owned” sections. It might be worth keeping an eye on those, and for sales, and maybe you can get the ring you want within your FI’s budget that way.
Just remember, an engagement ring is a lovely and romantic gesture, a symbol, but unneccesary. Nobody’s going to check you have one when you go for your marriage license and deny you if you don’t. The make and model and cost of the ring on your finger is probably the least important thing about a marriage. In my opinion. 🙂
Post # 9
Both are beautiful, but I have to go with everyone else in saying go for a smaller center stone and get the ring you LOVE. Good luck and congrats on your future engagement!
Post # 10
First of all, congrats on the upcoming proposal!! My boyfriend and I also went ring shopping together yesterday and I have the feeling he will buy the ring within a week or two This is our 2nd or 3rd time going to the jewellers together and trying rings on etc..I think this time he has more or less made his mind up because I have been waiting sooo long for this to happen!!!
I have made my mind up about which ring I want and he said we can go together to actually buy it on Monday if I wanted to. Although I really wanted to say yes, I somehow wanted to leave that to him and would rather have him buy it when I’m not there…WERE ANY OF YOU THERE WHEN YOUR FIANCEE BOUGHT THE RING?? 🙂 I hope I don’t change my mind when I’m waiting for months and nothing’s happening!!! lol
I personally prefer the 2nd one…
This is the ring that I’ve chosen (I live in New Zealand):
CONGRATS AND OMG WE’RE GOING TO GET ENGAGED SOON!!!!!!!!!
Post # 11
Thanks for all of the advice, ladies. I will definitely have to look into that smaller center stone! 🙂 @azafate- your ring is gorgeous! (hoping that’s the one he gets) My future fiancee wants me to be there when he buys it, but I also told him I would rather him go alone. 🙂
Post # 12
@azafata: That ring is beautiful! I hope you get it! I actually wasn’t there when my fiance picked the ring. I prefered it that way for many reasons, one being that I would feel bad seeing him spend so much money on a ring, so I just let him do it without me knowing. That way, he also got to get what he wanted to get for me without me persuading him to get something I felt “safe” with.
Post # 13
this is forever, so do not “settle”. something is out there for you that will make both of you happy.
however, of the two, i prefer the first one.
Post # 14
@Elvis: THIS. especially the part about him being fiscally responsible being a good quality.
having lived on $2000/mo myself, believe me, it’s tough to make ends meet. especially in this economy, it’s just not wise to go into debt on something you can’t afford, because you just don’t know what could happen. he’s not being cheap, he’s being responsible.
if you don’t like what he’s picked out for you, let him know, and try to find something else. i’m sure there’s something out there that you’ll love that he can afford.