Engagement Ring- Advice on carat size /clarity

posted 2 weeks ago in Rings
Post # 16
243 posts
Helper bee

I think it’s totally personal preference. I wouldn’t want to wear a 3.5 carat diamond just because it’s not my style and I think it’s too big for my taste. However, if that is your taste then you should absolutely do it.

Post # 17
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Hi, bee. I think the 3 1/2 carat stone is warmer than I would like for a white stone and not warm enough to be a beautiful yellow stone. 

I would choose the 2.  I wear a 2 on a 8.5 finger and it is definitely big enough to make a statement without being over the top.

Post # 18
2402 posts
Buzzing bee

The 3.5 ct one looks too warm to be a J.  (And I wear a Q/R colored stone).  Which lab did the grading?

Post # 19
1024 posts
Bumble bee

2 carat all the way. It looks much better imo 

Post # 20
190 posts
Blushing bee

That’s a J ? It looks like a K or warmer to me. BUTT I love that haha so if I had to pick then 3.5 carat all the way in a beautiful yellow gold setting. I would rock that alll that with PRIDE. 

Post # 21
3075 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2006

I agree that if I chose the 3.5, I’d have it recut. Do you have pics of the 2? 

Post # 22
571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

The 3 carat looks really yellow. I am not a fan of that personally, and it sounds like you want lighter stone. Have you considered rose gold? Both rose and yellow gold should complement a warmer diamond. I’m not a fan of huge round solitaires because they look like ring pops. A bigger carat will also sit higher and catch on things more easily. I have a 6.5 finger and was considering a 2 carat. It looked big in a nice way, but almost too big. I ended up with a 1.5, had it for 2 days, and already had people comment on how big it is. I think 6 prongs makes the stone look bigger. Lets see pics of the 2! How lucky you are to have these options! This is very exciting

Post # 23
320 posts
Helper bee

I’d go with the 2, I agree that the larger stone looks much more yellow than a J – personally I just prefer a whiter stone. If you do go with that larger one, set it in yellow with yellow prongs – white prongs will make the stone look even more yellow because of the contrast.

Post # 24
1435 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I am ALL ABOUT big bling, so usually I would recommend going for the higher carat. However, I have found that I am more color sensitive than anything else. In this case, I would go for the smaller (but still huge) diamond.

Post # 25
17 posts

A well cut diamond will have better light return and often will look higher in color than it is (at least in a round brilliant). Your 3.5 carat, while large, looks like it has a less than optimal cut, likely because it is an older heirloom.

Have you ever considered a recut for the stone? It would still be your family’s diamond, just with a “make over” so to speak. The recut might help lighten the body color, if that’s what you’re seeking, and just overall increase contrast and light return so your diamond looks more lovely  

Lower color diamonds can be very pretty- I think that your diamond is much lower than a J- the color actually reminds me a bit of my R colored AVR diamond. Mine is set in 18k rose gold ☺️

Post # 26
194 posts
Blushing bee

Were the two diamonds in question graded by GIA?  If they aren’t GIA graded (or AGS) I would worried about the accuracy of the grading and quality of the diamonds.  Regardless, that J is too warm for my taste.  

Post # 27
1045 posts
Bumble bee

Many people prefer a white stone, but personally, I love the warmth of my N diamond. The 3.5 carat looks much warmer than a J, but I love the color in it.

It all comes down to preference as to size and color, and also, some characteristics you haven’t mentioned: cut and clarity. 

Who did the grading? GIA? 

Are the stones eye-clean? An SI1 may not be. 

Are they excellent cut? That will affect how light disperses through them. 

I would choose the one with the best cut and clarity for the light performance, as a stone with more color is gorgeous to me, and neither of yours is completely colorless. 


Post # 28
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

I would choose the one that sparkles the most. Wave your iPhone light over them to see which throws the most fire. Also, order a couple of CZ rings and wear them around and see what you prefer.

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