(Closed) Engagement "ring" debacle, help!

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
Post # 61
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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prettyinpinkish :  Fair enough. I feel like with subjects as serious and important as engagement and marriage, it’s probably best to have a straightforward talk about what you guys both want without jokes, regardless of what your communication style as a couple is. Just be honest with him, and invite him to do the same. 

Post # 62
2130 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

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prettyinpinkish :  Real talk, I have jumped in the car in the middle of the night and driven two hours to the beach on a whim. I just have a thing about Voodoo. 

Like one night, I was downtown for a birthday pub crawl. We were en route from one to the next and had to walk past the line around the block BOTH WAYS waiting at Voodoo. So, I hollered “I WOULDN’T WAIT IN A LINE THAT LONG FOR AN ORGASM LET ALONE A MEDIOCRE DONUT.” 

Pix has amazing macarons. Blue Star makes an objectively better donut. When I took my spontaneous midnight road trip, at least I got an ocean as a reward instead of a wad of dough with cereal on it. 

Go on Ebay; find a big old honkin moissy. Spend $20. Only wear it when you’re around your judgy ass family. Use the money you aren’t spending to take the ferry to Victoria, stay at The Empress and go to Secret Falls. Have a crazy adventure, and your family can go stuff it.

Post # 64
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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pawneegoddess :  Li’l Sebastian isn’t a pony though!!! He’s a mini-horse. Although I agree he would make any proposal perfect. 

Post # 66
660 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

So…you mention a shrink…and with the way you write…I am wondering if you are either in a manic phase or off your meds? 

Perhaps he is less tolerant of the swings due to his stress/lack of sleep etc.

If you are bi-polar, I would suggest that managing this with medication is the wisest course of action.

Post # 67
10283 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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prettyinpinkish :  so really, your issue is your family. If you weren’t letting their behavior manipulate you into going along with something you don’t care about and don’t believe in and aren’t interested in, you would not be fighting about a pony proposal.

Stop fighting with a water balloon on this one and deal with your real problem. Just say no to the expectations. Limit them on Facebook. Cut the drama. 

It’s so much better than a pony you have to find a good home for because you had to do something to appease your family. 

None of this is really fair to your SO, who you say is already stressed. It’s like making up problems to add to his plate because you won’t deal with your family.

you’re not alone- we’ve all got them in our families. But they are our problem, not our partner’s. And definitely don’t let their expectations ruin your good relationship.



Post # 68
350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019


I really think him fighting with you over your weird pony suggestion has absolutely nothing to do with him working 80 over hours.

I am very sure he is fighting with you over your weird pony suggestion because your suggestion is just weird af. Period.

Like wtf?

Post # 69
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

You know what’s better than a pony proposal? Buying a private jet and flying to your family’s house and sticking out your hand with a honking CZ and telling them they aren’t invited to the elopement and flying out to a private island. Boom-epic memorable proposal and you guys get to keep the jet and go wherever you want-it’s almost like wearing a ring!

seriously though,talk to your man and worry about your family later-frankly it’s none of their business what you 2 decide to do for your wedding/marriage

Post # 70
281 posts
Helper bee

I am a no on the pony because you have no realistic plan for it. But I have had multiple friends who received (and wanted) puppies for their engagement. Because we are dog trainers/nerds and PUPPIES! But you also need to have a plan and lifestyle able to care for a puppy. 

Post # 71
635 posts
Busy bee

Ok did no one read the part about them having a girlfriend? if your main concern is your boyfriend acting weird, you might want to consider that the sister wife has something to do with it. 

Post # 72
406 posts
Helper bee

Rent a pony.



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daisy123 :  She’s bi, they have a girlfriend who isn’t a lifepartner = probaaaably an open relationship?

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