- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2019
Like one night, I was downtown for a birthday pub crawl. We were en route from one to the next and had to walk past the line around the block BOTH WAYS waiting at Voodoo. So, I hollered “I WOULDN’T WAIT IN A LINE THAT LONG FOR AN ORGASM LET ALONE A MEDIOCRE DONUT.”
Pix has amazing macarons. Blue Star makes an objectively better donut. When I took my spontaneous midnight road trip, at least I got an ocean as a reward instead of a wad of dough with cereal on it.
Go on Ebay; find a big old honkin moissy. Spend $20. Only wear it when you’re around your judgy ass family. Use the money you aren’t spending to take the ferry to Victoria, stay at The Empress and go to Secret Falls. Have a crazy adventure, and your family can go stuff it.
I don’t know how to explain but it’s kind of like he already proposed. I mean he reminds me every day that we are a team and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me so what else is there.
It’s likely because my family is so shitty that I am so afraid of something happening to him, he is like the only person who has ever been nice to me without wanting something which I mean I get I am a little much but I just wish I knew what to do to fix this for him or to make it better.
I thought about getting a better job, but I am at least 3 years away from my max earnings which will still be like $25k less than his so it would just mean I would be trading a slightly higher salary for the stability and flexibility that I currently have which is huge in my field.
As for my family, well they are scary and I am working on setting boundaries.
We did a 16-day road trip together that went along the coast all the way down to the Redwood national park in Cali as a “getting to know each other” thing shortly after we met and have been doing mini road trips a few times a year ever since. We always go south though so thanks for the recommendation.
So…you mention a shrink…and with the way you write…I am wondering if you are either in a manic phase or off your meds?
Perhaps he is less tolerant of the swings due to his stress/lack of sleep etc.
If you are bi-polar, I would suggest that managing this with medication is the wisest course of action.
Stop fighting with a water balloon on this one and deal with your real problem. Just say no to the expectations. Limit them on Facebook. Cut the drama.
It’s so much better than a pony you have to find a good home for because you had to do something to appease your family.
None of this is really fair to your SO, who you say is already stressed. It’s like making up problems to add to his plate because you won’t deal with your family.
you’re not alone- we’ve all got them in our families. But they are our problem, not our partner’s. And definitely don’t let their expectations ruin your good relationship.
I really think him fighting with you over your weird pony suggestion has absolutely nothing to do with him working 80 over hours.
I am very sure he is fighting with you over your weird pony suggestion because your suggestion is just weird af. Period.
You know what’s better than a pony proposal? Buying a private jet and flying to your family’s house and sticking out your hand with a honking CZ and telling them they aren’t invited to the elopement and flying out to a private island. Boom-epic memorable proposal and you guys get to keep the jet and go wherever you want-it’s almost like wearing a ring!
seriously though,talk to your man and worry about your family later-frankly it’s none of their business what you 2 decide to do for your wedding/marriage
I am a no on the pony because you have no realistic plan for it. But I have had multiple friends who received (and wanted) puppies for their engagement. Because we are dog trainers/nerds and PUPPIES! But you also need to have a plan and lifestyle able to care for a puppy.
Ok did no one read the part about them having a girlfriend? if your main concern is your boyfriend acting weird, you might want to consider that the sister wife has something to do with it.
Anyway, as for the rest of it also nope, but you get a +A for effect.
As for why I see a shrink, well not for any reason that requires psych drugs or any reason you possible could guess even I am just gonna leave it at that.
daisy123 : Last time a checked all of the Abrahamic religions don’t dig ladies digging ladies, so not sure whats up with the Morman references since I defiantly dig the ladies.
We have both been nonmonogamous for our entire relationship and ten some. For him for basically all of his adult life and me for a few years before we met so this is not nor will it ever be an issue.
To cut to the chase, just replace the word sex in your head with “video games” to answer any further questions.
Internet Stranger: “How can you play video games with more than one person?”
Me: “Video games are awesome, how can you not play with other people.”
Internet Stranger: “How are you not jealous?”
Me: “Why would I be, it’s just a game.Just because we hang out with other people doesn’t make us not each other’s favorite”
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