(Closed) Engagement "ring" debacle, help!

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
Post # 77
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433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

If he’s burning himself out, there needs to be an end point. Try discussing that with him. Is he in this so hard because he’s planning an early retirement? If not, talk to him about scaling back before it starts to chip away at his health. Also, if he wants to do the big splashy proposal, let him. You said you don’t mind spending money for experiences, becoming engaged like this is an experience he wants. Just let him make it fun and his own, maybe as a surprise vacation for the two of you. You can set a price limit for the ring (after all, you only really need to wear it around your family, so why spend the money?) and then lie to your family about the cost. It’s none of their business anyway. As for the wedding, have a courthouse wedding for insurance reasons and then let your mom plan a wedding for you if you don’t want to stand up to her. Everyone gets what they want, your family only knows what you tell them, and you can move on with your life.

Post # 78
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121 posts
Blushing bee

If not a pony, I would find something that speaks to you. Perhaps something more timeless and that will last longer than a pony. As a former horse owner, anything and everything equestrian is top dollar and time. Like paying a whole other mortgage or rent for them kinda of thing. 

 

As for your family I get it. You could get a fake ring and save the money on a BA trip. And when they’re not watching Dont wear it. It’s stupid how we live in the modern day and we still kneel down to tradition. 

Post # 79
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999 posts
Busy bee

I’d insist on a unicorn, if I were you. You’re worth it.

Post # 80
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47 posts
Newbee

He is “totes” going to run off with the girlfriend!

Post # 81
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34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2019

All snark aside, I’m sorry some people are making snide comments about your mental health or relationship preferences. That’s crappy behavior and you don’t deserve that.

Post # 83
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34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2019

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saffyduck :  You do you saffy. I definitely gave the OP a hard time and snark, but I wouldn’t cross into teasing about her mental health or relationship preferences. That’s a bridge too far in my book.

Post # 84
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921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery

If this is like totes legit, I’m not understanding how finding a pony, buying a pony, some how talking the restaurant into letting the pony inside, then later donating this pony is way easier than just telling your “traditional southern family”  and everyone else to shut the hell up and not worry about what is on your finger. 

Post # 85
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10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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prettyinpinkish :  

Have you done some research to find out how many ‘charities’ are in need of ponies?  If your post is real, and you think the pony thing is all fun and games, consider what you will do with this innocent creature when you’re done playing.

Too many of these animals end up at auction sales where they are snapped up by meat dealers who sell them for slaughter and resale overseas.

You will find that ponies are extremely high maintenance and expensive to own.  The purchase price is the least of your worries.  Rehoming a pony is no small task.

Figure out WTF you’re doing before you drag an innocent animal into your silliness.

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