- 5 years ago
so this is my very first post, and I really need your opinions. I’m 23 years old, and my boyfriend of over two years is about to be 25. I’m still in college, but he works. He makes very good money for his age, he is close to six figures. Not sure if it matters me telling you that… But I just want you guys to know just to get an idea.
i’m going to be honest… I am a very materialistic person, however anything that I want, I buy myself. Whether it be a new Louis Vuitton, or even to buy myself a car… I work really hard at my current job, and I save up. And it gives me A lot of pride. I don’t ever ask him for nice things, although occasionally he will get them for me. When we go out to dinner, he always pays… But when we go to things smaller like Starbucks, or breakfast which is typically cheaper, I always pick up the tab. I think it’s nice to treat him also!
so this is my problem… My boyfriend has taken me ring shopping multiple times, he knows that my absolute dream ring is a Tacori; HOWEVER.. I am fully aware that they are very expensive, especially since you have to buy the diamond separately. This is going to sound strange, but in our relationship he is the smart One with money, and budget. I am pretty smart too, but I like to be a little extravagant.
So here’s the problem… He is looking at buying me like a $30,000 ring… The setting I love is just a plain Tacori solitaire setting. The diamond he is looking at is an oval, which is what I want, he’s looking at 2.5 to 3 carats. ( I would love a two or 3 carat diamond because I’m almost 6 feet tall, and I feel like anything less would look really tiny on me…) even though I know he could afford it, I really am not comfortable with him spending that amount of money on a ring. Now if it was an upgrade when we are in our 40s, I would be all about it. But I really think the money should go towards saving up for house, or something more practical. I have told him that I would be perfectly fine with him putting a Moissonite in the ring instead, until we were older. Which I’m actually fine with, because I personally cannot tell the difference between that and the diamond, and I think they are beautiful. I have brought this up to him before, and he just laughed, and told me I was going to get the ring I deserved, and that I don’t need to worry about the price. I’m scared to bring it up again to him, because I’m afraid it’s going to upset him that I’m saying it again because I feel like it might be a slap in the face. It’s almost saying like ” you can’t afford this, don’t do it”.. even though he can.
what would you ladies do? Would you just let him do what he wants? Or would you bring it up again…? I don’t want to upset his pride, or hurt his feelings. My boyfriend is very smart with budgeting, so I know I’m spending that amount on the ring would not hurt us… But I am just very uncomfortable about it.
just need some honest opinions, anything would be very helpful.