(Closed) Engagement ring disappointment

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

So get an enhancement band for it. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Well, how do you feel about double halos?  Time for a 5-year anniversary enhancement? 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I agree with 

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bridetobe2018 :  maybe a halo setting? Or even go to a jeweler and see what an upgraded diamond would cost?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

You need to realize the thing represents your love and commitment. It’s not just a ring anymore. Stop looking at other rings. This is yours.

you could always upgrade if it’s that important but that will always be the original ring he gave you when he asked you to be his wife. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

Buy yourself a new ring?

engagement rings aren’t just a pissing contest to see who’s biggest, it’s the love of your now husband asking you to be with him forever. I feel bad that all you see is something not good enough.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think 5 years could be time for an upgrade. Is that an option?

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Buy yourself a new one or swap out for a larger diamond if you’re still insecure about your ring. 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

It sounds like you were actually HAPPY when you stopped focusing on the ring and started getting caught up in married life with your fabulous DH. Coveting will never make you happy, and now here you are, back to secretly wishing you had bigger, better, MORE. 

I guarantee you, you can upgrade your ring and you will still go out to lunch and see someone with an even bigger ring. Will the wanting ever stop? In other words, is there a ring that would make all these feelings go away, or if people make disparaging comments and you see others with larger rings will you still want more? It sounds like you just want others to acknowledge and admire your ring, and if that’s why you want a bigger ring, you will never be happy.

If your thread fraom a long time ago sounded selfish and silly, reread this one. How does it sound? You have a great relationship and love being married, and he’s a fabulous man… but none of that is enough?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

What about an upgrade? I’m thinking of doing the same some day.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Why not get yourself a nice ring that you want and wear it on your right hand? 

I’m not sure how you can upgrade or replace your ring without upsettig your husband. Is it really worth it?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

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Lily123 :  There is nothing wrong with liking other rings or even wanting them. No matter how much we all deny in, we feel competitive in some aspect of our lives with others. We don’t like something we’ve been given (re-gifting anyone?). We’ve acted a spoilt brat when disappointed wiht our partner. YOU ARE HUMAN. While you may not have liked the ring, you did not confound that with not liking the man. So, give yourself some credit and be kind to yourself, Ok?  

So, where to now? Live from now forward, not in the past. You’ve been married for 5 years. If you have the budget for it…find a new setting that could incorporate your current .25 carat princess diamond.

Use your .25 as one side stone and get a three-stone setting or get a moi toi. If you want moissy for the bling, you can have them use your princess as a side stone and add another (same quality/color/etc.).Then, the center of your choice. The center can even be a colored gemstone. 

Image result for round with princess three stone

There is a version of a moi toi that has a smaller stone and a bigger stone together to symbolize the growth of love and wealth in a marriage. Below is a picture of a modern interpretation. Could be all colorless stones or use color like this (budget friendly and can have meaning too…). 

Image result for moi toi ring mixed stone sizes

Image result for asymmetric engagement rings gemstone

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Why not upgrade? Or buy an enhancer. There are options, if it’s still upsetting you after 5 years then it’s time to actually do something about it, don’t you think?

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I was the same as you. Mine was 0.7 Ct and I felt like a brat for not loving it. It was a solitaire and just felt so plain to me. I got it reset for our 5th anniversary and I love it now. And my husband never had to know I didn’t love it. Maybe mention getting an upgrade? It’s pretty common to get a new one at 5 years. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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Lily123 :  I love to hear that you were able to separate your feelings toward the ring from the love you have for your husband. It sounds like you two have built a solid foundation together. I agree with PPs – you’re at the 5-year mark. And your hubby sounds lovely. Bring up the idea of an upgraded ring. Don’t tell him your sad feelings about your original rings, just tell him that you would like an “update.”

You two can even design it together, and make it a very special process. 

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