Post # 1
I got engaged two weeks ago now and my ring is still in for resizing. Right after my bf proposed, he made it clear I am welcome to exchange my ring (the place he got it has an extremely open 60 day exchange or refund policy) and has been encouraging me to look etc. I have no doubt that he genuinely doesn’t mind if I exchange it/wants me to love it. I’m really unsure because it’s a solitare which given how high it is doesn’t really appeal to me. I’d rather a few smaller diamonds around it and a smaller centre stone (in other words it isn’t at all that I don’t like what he picked, it’s more just practically speaking)… We’d had no conversations about rings before so that’s why he’s pushing the option of exchanging it.
I feel sooo guilty about exchanging it especially since he’s shown pictures to family and friends. Is that justified?
If I find a wedding/bridal set I want to chip in as we’ve agreed to buying our own wedding bands (i’ve also offered to cover any additional costs of the ring itself). I don’t see him allowing this, so any thoughts on making it up to him? Contribute more to the wedding? I do not want to have him spend more on a ring than he was initially comfortable with.
I also have some guilt because I know he got a good deal on my ring. As someone who loves deals, I’m having trouble then being okay with exchanging it for one that’s full price. Any thoughts?
Overall I just want to hear what you think! I feel like such a spoiled brat for even considering exchanging it.
Post # 2
The ring is in for resizing? Can you return after sizing? Most places don’t allow this.
It sounds like your Fiance really wants you to be happy with your ring, and as you didn’t give him much direction before, he just guessed at what you’d like. It sounds like he’d be fine with an exchange – so you should consider what you’d like.
If you’re not used to wearing high rings they can be a challenge. If you’d rather have a low set diamond with diamonds around it, then that’s great. The best idea is probably to go to the store he got the ring at and try on other rings to see what you like. If they have a website you can do a bit of internet shopping ahead of time.
Depending on the situation, and the ring he got you, you may get even be able to take the diamond out of the ring he gave you and put in into a setting that you like better. Then you’ll have the original diamond he proposed with – if you want to be sentimental.
If you happen to get a set, you can always offer to put in the extra money to help pay for it. Just ask – open communication is very important in relationships.
Post # 3
Thanks! Yes, I was very surprised that the policy was still good even after having the ring resized. We went in together the day after he proposed and I was much too overwhelmed to make a decision then, so I decided to at least get it resized in the meantime.
Another part is that the sales lady said to try it for a week or so after getting it resized. I feel like that’s weird to sort of test drive a ring. Thoughts?
I have actually talked to him about contributing, I just think he’ll turn me down when it actually happens!
Thanks for the awesome insights 🙂
Post # 4
Congrats on your engagement! Just out of curiosity do you have a pic of the ring? I’d love to see it!
Post # 5
This is it! If I do change it I’ll need to decide what I’m even looking for!
Post # 6
If you’re on the more sentimental side, I would just reset the center stone and get a new lower setting with small stones on the side or whatever you like. Finding a semi mount or setting should be no problem. Especially if you want to shop elsewhere and would consider buying pre-owned, there are deals to be had! I personally prefer a low bezel setting. Good luck and happy hunting! 😊