- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
Hello all, long time reader/commenter, first time poster. This past weekend my fiance and I decided to scope out wedding bands. While at a ritzy jewelry store in Grove City, Ohio (near Columbus) we decided to let the jeweler take a look at my engagement ring. I had been secretly wanting to get it looked at ever since it was put on my hand that wonderful day in September of 2009.
My fiance had JUST returned from a stint in Iraq and as his first item of business made me his bride-to-be!! Imagine my excitement, I had my boyfriend back from Uncle Sam for a while, and an upgrade to our relationship status. Throughout the summer overseas he had occasionally asked for my input on engagement bands. I had always wanted a ring with color, particularly canary diamonds. I would send him from time to time, pictures of the TYPES of rings I wanted. Being the kind of man who acts now and suffers the consequences later, he literally clicked on one of the links I had sent him with a picture of a ring I liked, and purchased it. No regard to cut, clarity, or color whatsoever. I know I will get some criticism from the ladies who feel I shouldn’t “look a gift horse in the mouth,” but from the moment I saw it my heart was torn between the elation of being newly engaged and the sadness of being unhappy with my ring.
First of all, its a one carot center stone with ten “canary diamonds” on the sides. The problem is, the center stone always appeared brown even to the naked eye and the gold seemed brassy. The jeweler automatically revealed my darkest fears. The center stone, was indeed a diamond, but of the lowest color and quality he had seen in quite some time. He offered us 800 to trade the center stone in. As for the canaries, they were actually mozanite. And the “certificate of authenticity” was not worth the paper it was printed in, so he said. My fiance was heartbroken, but I had casually mentioned that the diamond didn’t sparkle like the ones I had seen on friends, family etc… so I think he was braced for the bad news that he had been taken to the cleaners.
So here we are, over a year after he purchased it, for $3500 at Gem Stone King online, and it’s resale value is less than a thousand dollars. We are both unhappy with it, but can’t afford to do anything about it. I have offered up that we replace the center stone with a high quality simulated diamond for a few years and get an upgrade when we are more financially stable. He wants to keep it as is and try to get a new one before the wedding (in may) with a higher quality, but considerably smaller diamond.
I guess I’m hoping to hear feedback, advice, commiseration and what-not. We feel so defeated, but there was no guarantee, only a 90 day warranty, and he bought it sight unseen, so suing or recouping our money is probably not worth our time. Has anyone else been so unhappy with their ring that it has begun to take a toll on the relationship itself? I love him soooo much, and he is usually very thoughtful, but the fact that he put so little thought into the purchase breaks my heart, and our pocketbook.