Engagement ring has a huge flaw :(

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee

I think it all depends on the person and what is important to them. 

My Brother-In-Law was planning to propose to his gf and showed us the ring. it was a large diamond 1.5k but had lots of inclusions. My Brother-In-Law had a Limited budget and size was important to his gf. Once I saw the inclusions I couldn’t unsee them, I don’t think I noticed them until they were pointed out but it was years ago, so I’m honestly not sure which happened first. 

I do remember though that after he showed us the ring I told my Darling Husband, Bf at the time, that I would rather have a smaller ring with better clarity then that because it would drive me crazy. I really think it depends on your preference. 

If you do want to exchange diamonds then you will probably have to compromise size and depending on your ring/prongs and how much smaller the stone is you may need to get a completely new setting (not.likely, but a possibility). I would see if you could live with it for a little bit longer and then make your decision. 

Post # 33
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Busy bee

Honestly, the ring is new to you so you will pick apart every minute detail as we all do. Its normal. Love the ring and what it represents and in time you will forget about this and it will just become a part of your body you wear everyday.

Its a gorgeous ring and I didnt see anything wrong with the diamond. 

Post # 34
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Busy bee

gardener09 :  good to hear! When my sister got engaged a long time ago, her friend pointed out black marks and that they were “flaws” in the diamond. I hadn’t even noticed them until she pointed them out. I just saw a pretty ring. Diamonds are still pretty cool even if they have “flaws.” The way they were formed and how they are part of “earths history” is pretty cool…and pretty!! Your ring looks lovely.

Post # 35
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Blushing bee

Congrats on your engagement. Your ring is beautiful. Like someone said to you, it’s your ring with it’s little birthmark. It makes it unique. Nothing in life is absolutely perfect. How boring if it was. Enjoy it. ☺️

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

ReeLuvsRo :  bahaha I hope you told your coworker that you have a better diamond 😀 I also recommend comparing GIA reports with your friends/coworkers. I’m sure they will bow down as soon as they relalize they are inferior with their underperforming diamonds. And thanks for your valuable input about how the OPs diamond is “not worth the money”. What a piece of work you are.

And just so you understand how we see the situation: someone came here for advice because their diamond is included. Then you post a comment about how yours is not, and how awesome it is that yours is not, and that your diamond is better than most, and how you would never end up in a situation like this; with a “worthless, underperforming” diamond. This is not even humble bragging, this is pure bragging, rubbing it in: haha I instructed my man, he knows them 4C’s, sucks to be you.

Post # 37
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Busy bee

i2 clarity can reuslt in an unsafe structure. Can you replace it? 

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I think your ring is gorgeous, has great finger converage, and probably performs fine. You’re thinking about it the right way, seeing it as a birthmark. Everyone’s stones have lights in which they perform the best, and lights in which they are only “meh.” I have an eye clean VS2 that looks ‘meh’ in certain direct light, doesn’t mean I have a bad stone. No matter the specs, stones can be moody and it’s just part of their personality. Yours just likes dim light. 

Post # 39
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Busy bee

I had the same feelings regarding my SI1 diamond. I even made a thread about it. I was pretty upset that my Fiance didn’t do proper research before buying it, especially since better clarity diamonds were being sold for less on the site he got it from. In the beginning it was new, so I was constantly tearing it apart. Once you see it, you can’t unsee it. Now, I’ve made my peace with it. Like you said, it’s a ‘birthmark’, and I’ll always know it’s mine. Besides, I’ve convinced myself that the imperfection in it looks like FI’s initial.

Post # 40
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Busy bee

Umm… Can’t see the flaw u mentioned. It’s a lovely ring and suits you well. Congratulations!! Enjoy being engaged!!

Post # 41
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Busy bee

melihbee :  I read your comment and I had my pitchfork out. Then I went and read Ree’s comment and I lowered my pitchfork a little.

I don’t think you’re getting the exact gist of what she’s saying. She’s right in saying that an I2 diamond is significantly lower priced than other diamonds. Inclusions do affect the sparkle of a diamond. They affect how the light is refracted and therefore the diamonds sparkle. Hence the inclusions are considered ‘flaws’ to all gemologists, jewellers, and the four C’s do greatly affect prices. I2 clarity diamonds are the lowest clarity diamonds that are sold on the marker for jewellery use. Some retailers do not sell beyond a SI2.

That being said, a diamond doesn’t have to feel flawless to be beautiful. Now in clarity vs. cut, a cut is better since Cut is the most important determinant of the overall appearance of a diamond. No Clarity grade can help a poorly cut diamond.

Whether or not it’s work the money is upto conjencture since some people purposefully pick ‘salt and pepper’ diamonds.

Post # 42
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

greywacke :  it’s all true what you are saying. And we share our opinions but she said that diamonds like hers “don’t worth the money”. I recommend reading her 2nd comment too where she says that some ppl just have better diamonds, deal with it. 

In my opinion no one should comment on a thread of a worried bee looking for advice saying how she doesn’t have her problem and go into great details about how and why she doesn’t.

Post # 42
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Busy bee

melihbee :  Somehow my old post that I made regarding lowering my pitchwork just vanished (I don’t see it at least). But at least you read it.

Yes, I did read her second comment. IDK, maybe we have different viewpoints but from the way I see it, I thought she was sharing her experience in getting her ring, hence the detail. Not everyone has the same tolerance in quality. Everything that she was saying regarding clarity is based on fact – it is irrefutable that some diamonds are higher quality and sparkle more than others. No jeweller would ever recommend an I2 diamond, regardless of the cut, as it is true, certain structures can make it unstable. She says that a I2 diamond is not worth the money for her, and I tend to feel the same as her. Someone with a salt and pepper diamond will disagree with me and her saying that the inclusions give it character.

IMO, it’s not worth the trouble or motivation to call her out on her opinions from 5 months ago. I rest my case.

Post # 43
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Helper bee

gardener09 :  im glad the flaw is growing on you! 😊  My princess cut has a noticable feather in it. I absolutely love my diamond and wouldn’t change it for another! At first I was also concerned it would bother me but I’m always suprised as I’m doing things in the kitchen how it sparkles. Especially while cutting veggies or things on a cutting board (gotta be careful! Lol!!) It’s kind of cool to have a flaw because it is unmistakabley(sp?) a real diamond! Like you said it’s a birth mark, it’s own little identity haha. I get compliments on it often enough and I wear it with great pride so I doubt people even notice!! It’s just us the owners who notice I think! 

Post # 44
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Helper bee

When I look through one of the sides of my stone sometimes I can see a tiny little black spec. I’m not bothered by it at all, sometimes I’ll be looking and be like “where’s that little black spec at?” And be looking to find it and see it haha 

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