- 2 years ago
- Wedding: May 2018
I proposed to my finace, Tommy, a little over a year ago. Since I asked him, we decided to pick out an engagement ring for me together. I fell in love with a ring that was over our budget and ultimately decided I couldn’t ask him to spend that much on a ring. We had a small budget, which is fine, so we looked into less expensive options like gemstones instead of diamonds. We found a 3 stone, white sapphire and sterling silver bridal set at Zales. While it was pretty, it didn’t reflect me. I am very rustic and love anything vintage and unique. I didn’t have the heart to tell him it was not my favorite because he was so excited. Eventually I worked up the nerve to tell him it wasn’t my favorite so we decied to look at pawn shops instead. Perfect place for vintage items within our budget (plus my mom has always gotten wonderful things from pawn shops). We found a yellow gold marquise solitare with accents within our budget and Tommy really liked it. It did look good on my hand and I did like it, but didn’t love it. It just wasn’t me again… I felt awful for loving something out of our budget and couldn’t disappointment him again so we got the ring. Fast forward about a year later, I find a Morganite ring online and absolutely loved it. I showed it to him just to get his opinion really and he liked it too. Of course, that was the end of the conversation until we were walking around in the mall together. A few days earlier, I had gone to the mall by myself and a few Morganite rings had cuaght my eye. While Tommy and I were walking around I asked him if we could go look at some in person (out of curiosity). He said no at first because he doesn’t like being hounded by workers, but we winded up walking into a store and asking the worker if they carried the Morganites. They only had a few on display, but one caught Tommy’s eye so I looked at it closer, tried it on and fell absolutely in love with it! This was literally everything I wanted in a ring and then some. My dilemma is I yet again fell in love with a ring that I can’t ask for (since he has already bought two). But neither of the rings I have reflect me. I’m struggling with the fact that my conscious is saying it’s a material item and reflects that fact that you have each other, but my heart is saying, even though it’s a material item, it should reflect the person wearing it…
Any opinions or comments are welcomed and appreciated! I know this will seem petty to some, but please no rude comments. This is just genuinely how I feel.