Post # 1
finally, my boyfriend of 4 years and I are planning to go on ring shopping this weekend to buy or at least have an idea on what kind/design of ring should we buy as engagement ring.
hope you can post some pictures of your engagement rings.
by the way, is it advisable to spend much for the engagement ring? at what price range should we consider?
Post # 3
@purplering: Have you guys researched diamonds (or whatever stone you are planning on choosing) at all? If not you might want to start there. Do you have any ideas of style? There are so many: halo, solitaire, three stones, round cut, princess cut. If not they will have tons for you to look at! I always knew I wanted a three stone ring but I tried on other styles just to be sure.
Also, price range should certainly be something you talk about before you go. There is no good number for everyone. Choose a number after a discussion about what you can afford.
And I never turn down a chance to post my ring!
Post # 4
I know people who spent $20 on their e-ring and I know people who spent upwards of $60,000 – it really all depends on you as a couple, your finances, and what kind of ring you want.
I’d suggest doing some research before you go shopping. Decide if you want a diamond or another type of gemstone would do. Would you be okay with lab-created stones? They can often be a LOT cheaper than a mined stone. Also think about the kind of setting you’d want and what type of metal – that plays a big part in cost as well.
Do some surfing around jewelry sites (Blue Nile and moissaniteco.com have extensive collections) to get an idea of what your diamond cut and setting preferences might lie. And then go shopping together – I’d suggest ballparking a budget BEFORE you go shopping so you can give the salespeople better guidance on what to show you.
Have some fun looking around, try on rings of all shapes and sizes, and then you can maybe make a list and narrow it down to a few you really like and either pick it out together OR let him choose from the shortlist.
Good luck 🙂
Post # 5
thank you for the picture of your lovely ring.
of course, i am hoping for the traditional diamond in a white gold or platinum ring for every girl wants to have the perfect ring.
few days ago, we actually saw a ring which i love but cost at around USD1900. my boyfriend said that it is too expensive and we could just buy something not that expensive so that we can use the money for the wedding itself.
with that, im not sure what to look for in a ring now.
hoping to see something not that expensive but nice, but honestly i feel a little sad because it seems that my partner is not willing to spend on something so important for me.
Post # 6
It truly depends what you can afford. The old 3 month salary rule doesn’t really apply any more IMO, as usually that would buy a ring you couldn’t wear anywhere for fear of losing it! (also that much money is better spent on living life/house deposits!).
It also depends on where you live. As a guide i wanted a practical ring so I could wear it to work, and went for a trilogy palladium band with less than 1/2 a carat of diamonds. I just worked it out and we spent 3% of his salary on my ring (wow that seems really low! But we did get a great deal online)
Post # 7
@purplering: Are you willing to look into moissy stones? There are a ton of bees with those and they are gorgeous as well. I think you can find a nice ring under $1900 if you shop around.
ETA: do you have a picture of the ring you find? Perhaps bees have seen something similar but less expensive.
Post # 8
i feel weird because he haven’t formally proposed to me yet and we are already going on ring shopping.
although he said that he wanted us to get married soon –maybe because i was asking him if he have plans for our future because i told him that i should be married at my age now.
i hope i can experience being surprised with wedding proposals as well as with the e-ring but it seems that i wont experience that because we are shopping for my ring together.
maybe the positive side of it is that, im getting the ring design that i want.
honestly hoping for a white gold or platinum ring with 1 diamond on it even not that big nor expensive
Post # 9
@purplering: Oh, don’t feel weird! Lots of couples go ring shopping together prior to engagement 🙂
It can still totally be a surprise even though you shop together – even if you know exactly what the ring will look like, he can make the proposal itself a sweet surprise. Just make sure he knows that you would like a formal proposal! Some guys are clueless about that stuff and need it spelled out for them haha.
You might want to look into Moissanite or lab-created sapphires, if cost is an issue. Both are generally less expensive than diamond and you can get a larger stone without spending as much as you would on a diamond. Diamonds are, unfortunately, overpriced.
Post # 10
If you want to be surprised by your ring, just tell your bf what you just told us. That you want a white gold or platinum ring with 1 diamond and let him do the rest.
As for how much you should spend. Like PPs said that really depends on your finances and your bf’s finances. As my dad always says “never buy something you don’t have money to pay for right this second”
Post # 11
by the way, i am from the Philippines that is why ordering on-line might cost me much shipping fee.
i am actually willing to spend less on everything about the wedding itself just to have nice engagement ring and wedding ring for i will be wearing those for the rest of my life and could serve as investments as compared to expensive wedding gown.
Post # 12
that could work but i dont trust my partner’s taste when it comes to material things hahaha…
and the biggest problem is that it is very hard for me to lie, so if he got a ring which i dont admire he will surely see it with my reaction even i try to act-out that i like it.
this happens everytime with his gifts for me like flower choices etc..
he even gave me an umbrella and key holder as christmas present for 2 consecutive christmases.
im just saying that he doesnt have the eye in giving material things that a woman could be happy about. but of course i love him that is why i graciously accept those gifts even those unexpected-gifts-from-a-partner ones
Post # 13
it is sad to hear that diamonds are overpriced but it is true.
thanks for your advises..
probably will just get a low-priced ring and will just use most of our savings with other finances such as house rent etc..
that is being practical i guess.
what is important is we get married and our love for each other.
those ring inputs of mine are just my childhood wishes and dreams wihen it comes to engagement ring and wedding ring.
Post # 14
@purplering: I agree with you, you’ll be wearing the rings long after the wedding “party” is just a memory. Although expensive, diamonds are valuable, beautiful, billions of years old, each one is special and one of a kind! They are unique and from the earth! Yes its good to be pragmatic but it’s also ok to splurge on something nice for such an important event as a marriage.
Here’s a ring I found, don’t know if they ship to the Phillipeans.
Blue Nile has some great prices and they have a good reputation. The above link is a 1/3 carat decent quality round brilliant diamond ring in a simple Platinum Tiffanyesque setting for US $1300. White gold would be less. Given what you’ve said about your fiance’s taste, you may want to choose several rings and then let him make the final decision.
Good luck and hope you get a fabulous ring. Post a picture after you choose!
Post # 15
I think that is such a personal question. First, for one person say $1,000 might be low while another will consider it high. I think it depends on the couple as they will be the ones who will be wearing them daily. For me and my fiance, we both agree on not making a big deal on the wedding. Me more than him and since it’s usually the bride that wants a big big wedding, he just wants a reception for his family. So because of that, I have told him before we were even engaged that a wedding is 1 day while our rings are ones we will wear forever. That to me, is the most important part of it. My ering is custom made and we are still deciding on our wedding rings. I have decided on mine, white sapphires in eternity chanel setting, platinum metal. For my fiance it’s the same setting and metal, it’s just blue sapphires and black onyx. He added the black onyx I think to “man it up”.
Post # 16
I’d spend whatever he is financially comfortable with. 🙂 Good luck on your hunt!