(Closed) Engagement Ring is Wedding Ring?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I Add a Wedding Band? Pictures of the ring are added.
    Yes : (13 votes)
    32 %
    No : (27 votes)
    66 %
    Can't Decide : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Do you mind me asking what your engagement ring looks like?  I’ve actually never heard of not getting a wedding band, so I’m surprised that’s what you’re doing, but it probably really depends on what the ring looks like and what you like.  Good for you not spending extra money though!  😛

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m the same way.  I like the look of my engagement ring by itself, and didn’t want to get a ring to stack with it.  I’ve never really liked the look of stacking rings.  I did get a wedding band though, because my Fiance insisted I needed it, but I plan on wearing it on days that I don’t want to wear my engagement ring, or maybe on my right hand.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I am just having my engagement ring.  It’s sort of a long story, but I have tried just about every style wedding band I can think of and none of them look “right” with my e-ring – they either “hide” underneath or they just create “too much going on.”  So I am just sticking with this. 

    Interestingly, it has taken me a really long time to come around to this idea (I was really stubbornly set on finding a wedding band for several months), but most of my married friends have reassured me that my e-ring is just right on its own.  (Word to the wise – most of my married friends only wear their e-rings when we go out on the town, especially since they have had babies…)

    @Adira – I know you didn’t ask me, but I think it’s interesting to know what types of rings people have that don’t use want/can’t figure out a wedding band, so here is a picture of mine.

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    Post # 7
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    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    haha, okay, now that I’ve seen your ring (yours too @septcabride), I get why you wouldn’t want a wedding band as well!  I think your ring works perfectly fine as your wedding ring and you don’t need to get a specific wedding band.  Some rings look better on their own!  🙂

    Post # 8
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    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    @septcabride – by the way, your ring is gorgeous and huge, lol!  No wonder you won’t be getter a wedding band.  By the way, why do your friends just wear their engagement rings when going out?  What does having babies have to do with it?  Just curious!

    Post # 10
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    3041 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I might use my ering as my wedding band, but for the ceremony Fiance & I are going to use our promise rings to give to each other. Then, we’re getting wedding bands on our honeymoon (in Mexico), or at least going to try & find some. Fiance & I have small fingers, I’m a 4.5 & he’s a 7 (most guys rings only go down to 9). I wouldn’t wear 2 rings on one finger… maybe I’ll be backwards & wear my ering on my left hand & my wedding band on my left. Or maybe you just gave me the idea to just use my ering & I won’t need anything else :).

    Are you wanting a wedding band? If you want one & just can’t afford it, http://www.overstock.com has really cheap rings, you can get one for around $20.

    Your ering is beautiful, I think you could definately use it as a wedding band :).

     

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Thanks!  It’s an heirloom from FH’s family.  And it definitely took me a while to get used to the size!  LOL.  All I said before the proposal was that I wanted something old and flat (meaning nothing with the stones set up high) – I’d say he did well.  Smile

    As for most of my friends, they all say that their e-rings (all pretty typical, high-set solitaires, if it makes a difference) get in the way when they are dealing with their kids, and then they just forget to put them back on.  (I personally think this is weird, but I am not married and not a mom, so what do I know?)

    Post # 12
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Me too!  My Fiance and I are a bit “untraditional” when it comes to weddings.  We approach most traditions as “If there’s a rational reason for it, do it.  If there’s no reason other than ‘It’s tradition’, then rethink it.”  For us, it did not make sense to follow the wedding band tradition.  We both have engagement rings, so it created the problem of what to do with his – would he have two rings?  Just get a new one and ditch the engagement ring?  We really like his engagement ring, so it made sense for him to continue wearing that one.  It seemed silly for us to get a wedding band for me and not for him, plus I don’t like the look of my ring with a band, so we just decided to make our engagement rings our wedding rings.  I’m not sure what we will do at the ceremony – we might “exchange” them again.

    Also, to me, the decision to spend the rest of my life with him was made when we got engaged, not at the wedding, so keeping our engagement rings just makes more sense for us!

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    i also have a tension set e-ring that would have been hard to fit with a band, unless i had one made custom, but i didn’t want to do that because i want a band that i can wear on it’s own or with my e-ring…anyway, that sounds super complicated! what i’m planning on doing is wearing my e-ring on my right hand and wedding band on my left (actually, 2 bands, but that’s also complicated to explain!). so that’s a possibility if you do decide you want a band

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @Rebeltreble – I love your ring for exactly that reason!  It is so modern, adding anything else might just take away from the simple elegance of your e-ring.

    @runskiclimb – We are just planning on using my e-ring in the ceremony, so I will just take it off before, give it to my Maid/Matron of Honor, and she’ll pass it up just like a wedding band.  (You aren’t supposed to wear your e-ring during the ceremony anyway – bad luck! – so I don’t think it will make any difference.) 

    I LOVE what you said about making the committment when you got engaged.  That rings so true – and I love the sentiment behind that.  Thanks!  (One thing I love about the bee is that I am constantly hearing such smart, sassy ways of thinking about things…)

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