Engagement Ring Issue!!!

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
  • poll: Which Ring should I Buy?
    Diamond : (52 votes)
    79 %
    Moissanite : (7 votes)
    11 %
    Moissanite and Upgrade to Diamond Later : (7 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 2
    634 posts
    Busy bee

    Have you asked her if she cares whether or not it’s a diamond? FH has set a budget thinking of a diamond ring and once I started looking into the prices and quality of moissanite there was no turning back, but I love saving money more than I love being able to say I have a real diamond on my hand, haha.


    edit to say, woops! For some reason my phone skipped the entire second paragraph my bad. 

    Post # 3
    385 posts
    Helper bee

    It sounds like you know she’ll be happier with a diamond, but are pushing moissanite be because you get more for cheaper. 

    She has to wear it. I’d say go for the diamond and include her in the process. Let her know your budget (or say a number slightly lower to surprise her with an even bigger stone than expected) and let her guide you over those tough calls. I think .7 is a lovely size.

    Post # 4
    1206 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018 - -

    Leave it to her to choose between a smaller diamond, or her ideal size moissanite. Then you don’t have to be the one making a “bad” decision.

    I chose moissanite because the only part of getting married I was confident about is that the ring wouldn’t have a big diamond in it. But a lot of people, including your girlfriend, know a diamond as iconic in an engagement ring. So, she isn’t wrong, you aren’t wrong, but it is subjective. Most people who crave a diamond don’t seem to be happy if they do compromise with a clear alternative stone.

    Post # 5
    406 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Canada

    You could suggest moissanite or a small diamond and upgrading to a larger diamond in the future.

    ETA: I just saw this option in the poll lol

    Post # 6
    2814 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

    I would go with a lab diamond! Another bee posted about Brilliant Earth and you can get an amazing diamond for less than $1k! It’s like the best of both worlds…. real diamond for an awesome price. 

    Post # 7
    21 posts

    What did she say when you told her you could only afford a smaller diamond? If she has her heart set on a diamond then you should go with the diamond. If she says the size and specs matter more then go Moissy. But make sure whatever you buy shows you took her desires into consideration, not just your budget.

    Post # 8
    3534 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    bnaumov :  none of us are going to be able to tell you what she will be happy with. This is a conversation you need to have with her. If you’re mature enough to get married, you’re mature enough to sit down and have a discussion about budget and style and what you can get within that budget and make a decision together. 

    Honestly, rings really shouldn’t be a surprise anyway. It’s a huge investment – she should help you pick it out, as it will be on her finger. MOST of us had a huge role in picking out our rings, if not just outright chose one. 

    Post # 11
    48 posts
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Personally I would rather a smaller diamond than a moissy. I would be very disappointed if I didnt get a diamond, even a small half carat one would be lovely. But it is up to her. You should ask her out right and get the lady what she wants 😉

    Post # 12
    40 posts
    • Wedding: November 2017

    Have you looked at Blue Nile or James Allen online? They have some good options with cushion cut diamonds that are  VS2 and near colourless around .70 – .80 carats that come to around $2500 with a band that has some diamonds. 



    Post # 13
    6510 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    There’s nothing wrong with a moissanite for the woman who wants one; there’s everything wrong with moissanite for the woman who does not. i agree with the PP about looking into James Allen or Blue Nile to get the most diamond for your budget.

    Post # 14
    659 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Agree with looking at more options like Blue Nile. Your gf stated she wanted a diamond and that’s understandable. But don’t argue/reason with her on why you think getting a moissanite is better. Let her choose between a smaller diamond vs a moissanite.

    Post # 15
    484 posts
    Helper bee

    A diamond that is set within a halo will look bigger on her finger, like in the first picture posted above.  I agree with the recommendations to let her be part of the selection process, and agree with Blue Nile or James Allen.  You can get more for your money if you buy online. 

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