Engagement Ring Issue!!!

posted 2 months ago in Engagement
  • poll: Which Ring should I Buy?
    Diamond : (52 votes)
    79 %
    Moissanite : (7 votes)
    11 %
    Moissanite and Upgrade to Diamond Later : (7 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 17
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    196 posts
    Blushing bee

    Are you doing the epic proposal for you or for her?  If it’s for her, do you have reason to believe she would prefer that over more money going to the ring?

    Post # 18
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    231 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    Buy shy. You can definitely find a .9 or so diamond with a pave band in your price range! I would suggest seeing the diamond first just to know it’s eye clean but there are tons of online retailers than allow for returns

    Post # 20
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    85 posts
    Worker bee

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with moissanite or other stones other than diamonds. Some women actually prefer them. HOWEVER,  the key thing here is that it’s not what your SO wants. As PP have said there are many alternatives to get a diamond ring cheaper (ie. Different clarities/colours/ ct weight) you could look at buying preowned (also for some reason not buying exactly 1/2 ct or 1 ct and instead buying for example 0.55 can work out cheaper) perhaps tell her your budget and let her pick out something she loves and then you are both happy. 

    Post # 21
    Member
    85 posts
    Worker bee

    bnaumov :  has she said she would be happy with a lab diamond?

    Post # 22
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    813 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2019

    Sounds like you have a great solution! The only other option I will throw out there is to look into a “used” diamond. Buying one second hand may be more budget conscious! 

    Post # 23
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    446 posts
    Helper bee

    If she was disappointed at the thought of having something other than a diamond why would you still entertain the idea of Moissanite?? 

    Post # 24
    Member
    47 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Isn’t a lab diamond a moissanite? Have you asked her if that is what she wants? I think you could potentially be on shakey ground here, why do you want her to be disappointed? It sounds to me that you are thinking about what you want out of the proposal and not necessarily what she wants.

    Post # 25
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    1490 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    Definitely prioritize the ring over the proposal. The proposal is a one time event, and a perfect/epic proposal does not have to be, and really shouldn’t be expensive. The ring is something that your bride will wear for the rest of her life. If you’re spending less on the ring to afford more for this “epic” proposal, I would definitely reconsider. Your girlfriend would most likely rather you spend the money on the more permanent ring.

    Post # 26
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    136 posts
    Blushing bee

    Present your girlfriend with all of the options you have found within your budget and let her choose which one she prefers, or let her research options within the budget for herself to see if there is something she likes better. If she wants something more expensive she can chip in for the difference. Don’t let anyone push you into spending more if you don’t want to. You have every right to set the budget at whatever amount you want and for whatever reason you want. There should be plenty of beautiful options in your price range.

    Post # 27
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    170 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    It sounds like she was trying to be polite when you mentioned a diamond alternative; to me, that means that she wants a diamond but is too nice to say it outright and she’s hoping you get the hint (this could also be true for the lab grown diamond).

    Highly recommend Blue Nile. That’s where my husband bought mine, and they have a really good exchange/return policy. Basically, you will get more bang for your buck online then in a brick or mortar store for sure.  

    Also, I agree with PP about prioritizing the ring over the proposal. You don’t need to spend a lot of money on the proposal for it to be special. 

    Post # 28
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    107 posts
    Blushing bee

    lavendermist :  A lab diamond is not moissanite. It’s a real diamond grown in a laboratory, rather than mined from the earth. Moissanite, on the other hand, is a diamond simulant that looks very much like a diamond, but it’s made of different material. Without specialized equipment, lab diamonds are indistinguishable from natural diamonds.

    bnaumov :  I think a lab diamond is the perfect solution. On average, they’re about 30% cheaper than natural diamonds, so that could save you a few thousand dollars! And they are real diamonds in every way, so there’s no reason your girlfriend wouldn’t be happy with a lab diamond. Plus, you don’t have to worry about getting a blood diamond, as lab diamonds are conflict-free.

    Post # 29
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    25 posts
    Newbee

    Lightbox 1 carat diamonds are a great idea. I will be getting some for earrings.

    DO NOT “FORGET” TO TELL YOUR FIANCE IT IS A LAB DIAMOND. 

    They are “real” diamonds in that they are all carbon. But you do not want her thinking they are natural earth mined stones. Let her know it is a conflict free diamond that was made in a lab. 

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