Post # 1
Hello all! Long time lurker, first time poster. Little backstory, I never wanted an engagement ring, I’m just not a big jewelry wearer, was just going to have a wedding band, until I found out my mother was going to let me have this gorgeous ring as an engagement ring. Its too big for my ring finger, but fits perfectly on my middle finger, and really I just love how it looks on the middle finger. Question is, do I go ahead and get it sized so I can wear it on my ring finger, or can I wear it on my middle and have the band eventually on my ring finger? I realize if its on the middle, people likely won’t think I’m engaged, which doesn’t bother me too much, I’ve never been one for tradition anyways (we’re getting hitched at the courthouse). But then again I feel like having them side by side they’d be clanking against eachother in an annoying fashion. What do you think? Anybody else wear engagement/wedding ring on finger other than left ring finger?
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2019 - City, State
Do whatever you want! If you prefer it on your middle finger, wear it there. Your ring, your hand, your rules.
Post # 3
A lot of countries in Europe have the wedding band on the right hand ring finger instead of the left. My right hand ring finger is about the same size as my left middle finger so I can swap rings around.
Wear your ring where ever you want. Your mum gave it as an engagement ring so just let her know that you prefer to wear it on another finger. Rings next to each other can click and some people find that annoying to wear but it is up to you.
Post # 4
Do you have a ring that fits your ring finger just to see how they feel next to each other? I feel like it might be annoying, but you can always have it re-sized at a later date. Wear it on your middle for nowif thats how you like it!
Post # 5
I agree with the whole “do what you want” thing but i’m actually just commenting to say that your ring is gorgeous!
Post # 6
Thank you 😀 It was my grandma’s, and I’ve had my eye on it for a while!
Post # 7
Unfortunately I don’t. I’ll probably have to make a trip over to the jewelry store to try the band on and see how they both feel together.
Post # 8
wearing metal rings on adjacent fingers is annoying to me. I either wear rings on fourth and second, or middle only (right hand), or stack ’em.
I would keep it as is (since you can resize it anytime), and see how you like tucking underneath your wedding band or wearing it on your right hand. I also got a ring recently that’s too big for my fourth but perfect on my third, and I alternate between right-hand middle finger and stacking underneath wedding band on fourth finger! it’s fun to have the options with a slightly bigger ring, so I haven’t taken it in for resizing yet either.
Post # 9
Love that!! How about right hand middle or ring finger?
Post # 10
Oh it is so unique and GORGEOUS! Of course you should wear your ring however and wherever you want. The only thing I’ll say is that I have a friend who wore her engagment ring on a finger that was not her left ring finger and she eventually just got really tired of people always saying “wait but that’s not the right finger!” Which is so silly and so dumb because it is no one’s business, but, that’s people for ya! If you don’t mind people asking often why you’re wearing it there, go for it!
Post # 11
I’d get it resized for the ring finger. If you flip someone the bird they don’t deserve the joy of seeing a lovely ring you know what I’m saying.
Post # 12
That’s a really pretty ring!
Personally I don’t like feeling rings rub against eachother. Even with my wedding and engagement rings I like having a gap between them (and they fit perfectly so don’t move too much) because I feel like I can feel or hear the squeaking against eachother. But this is a personal preference and you might not mind.
But if you will mind havign the rings rub eachother, what about putting the engagement ring on your right hand? In my parents’ culture, they wear wedding and engagement rings on their right hand. And a lot of cultures do the same thing. Others have the engagment ring on the right hand and the wedding band on the left.
Post # 13
Love a good vintage ring!! Can you wear it on your middle finger until you’re married and then move over to your right hand? My ring couldn’t be more traditional but I love and admire brides who go against the grain and do what they want!
Post # 14
That is beautiful!! I would probably get it sized at some point. I don’t know if I would do it immediately or years into marriage. But I would figure it’s going to be on your hand for the rest of my life, so might as well wear it on the same finger as my band.
But that’s just me. Do whatever you want! Who says rings need to be worn on a specific finger, anyway?
Post # 15
My only concern would be the two rings damaging each other from rubbing.
Wear it on the middle, get your band to fit your middle too.