Post # 1
Hi everyone 🙂
I am recently engaged (on Saturday! eeek!). And I just wanted to get some advice about your engagement ring size, how it should feel, etc. My ring is currently a size 4, and I am thinking about resizing to a 4.25. Will that make a big difference? I rememebr when I got sized in the winter the jeweler said I was a 4 and I mentioned it felt tight and my hands swell and I would like it a bit bigger, and he said no and that I was a 4.
I have attached pictures of how it looks, and the little mark it leaves when I take it off (is that normal??). I went back to the jeweler and the lady said I should let myself adjust to wearing a ring (I normally don’t) and if it is consistently bothering me in a few weeks to come get resized.
When my hands are cold it fits really comfortable and doesn’t spin. But when my hands are warm I can feel it around my finger and its uncomfortable and doesn’t move at all and I feel a little bit like a sausage haha.
Do you think a 4.25 would be ok or should I do a 4.5 or just let myself adjust more? An advice helps! Thanks!
Post # 2
Mine is the same way. I think you probably have the right size but if it really hurts I would go up a little. I always think about over the years you’ll probably gain weight or have a baby and have to have it re sized. So I would probably go up just a little but it is up to you. It is your preference. The way you described it is exactly like mine. The jeweler told me it is suppose to go on easy and come off hard. Like easy to go on. A little hard to get off. If it is cold my spins also but if I eat a lot of salt or its really hot its like almost stuck on there but it does come off with force.
Post # 3
I had my finger sized in Thanksgiving, and the store was cold, and I was a perfect 4. Afterwards, I realized it had been cold in the shop and decided to get a 4.25 to accomodate for swelling. I ordered a “tester” band in a size 4.25 from the guy who is making our setting and wore it during a summer weekend to see how that felt – it was Perfect!
Another thing to think about… I also slipped one of my 1.7mm etsy bands on with the tester band to see how it will feel to wear the e-ring and wedding band together. When you put two rings on side by side, they will feel even tighter than when it’s just one, since then you are wearing the equivalent of (for instance) a 4mm wide band instead of 2mm.
I definitely think you should size up to 4.25. It will give you more room for swelling in the e-ring, and also make your eventual wedding band more comfortable. I’d be hesitant to go up to a 4.5, as that could make it too big to wear alone when it’s cold.
In your shoes, I’d jump on etsy and order 2 rings at a size 4.25 (they make them to order) at the mm width your rings are/will be. You can find these for ~$40. Wear one alone for a few days and then wear them together for a few days. Then decide what to do with your ering.
Post # 4
bcooper : I wear a size 3 when I’m not pregnant, and since I’m upgrading to a larger band width, I’m going up to a higher size but my ring normally leaves an indent from wearing it non stop. My husband’s ring does the same thing and it’s perfectly sized on him.
Post # 5
My rings never leave a mark and if they did, I’d size up. I’d probably get two cheap rings in sizes 4.25 and 4.5 and wear them around a bit to determine how much to size up.
Post # 6
duchessgummybunns : Thank you! Will going up .25 be noticeable? Thanks for the etsy idea!
Post # 7
bcooper : It is for me! At 4.25, I still had to “walk” each ring over my knuckle to get it off (and I don’t have large knuckles), but had a lot more room at the base of my finger. So when my fingers are REALLY swollen (think the morning after a sushi dinner, then sleeping in a warm room all night) the rings were tight and hard to get off. But that’s fixed by just running cold water over your hands for a minute. And that’s only maybe 5% of the time – the rest of the time, they’re loose-perfect. 90% of the time, I can swirl them around at the base of my finger, which is my comfort level with rings. I can’t stand them tight.
I used the shop Metal and Ivy: https://www.etsy.com/listing/507769893/14k-gf-stacking-ring-set-two-thin?ref=shop_home_active_12
When I asked her to measure the width of these bands, she said they were ~1.7mm thick.
Post # 8
I would go up 1/4 size for now. Your e ring shouldn’t really leave a mark since it’s being worn alone at this point. You have a solitaire like me so there are no side stones to worry about. My ring was sized down after I got engaged because it was a touch too big and recently I sized it up 1/4 size because it felt a bit tight after adding my wedding band. 1/4 size is not that noticeable but gives you the relief you are probably seeking. Your stone is fairly big so sizing up too much might give you a spinning ring when you are cold. You will probably have to go up another 1/4 size when you add a wedding band to it depending on how wide your wedding band is.
Post # 9
bcooper : Keep in mind you’ll also be wearing your wedding band as well (I assume), which means with two rings on, it’ll be even tighter. I would size up a little just to make it more comfortable. 🙂 The ring looks great on you! Do you mind me asking what are the dimensions of the stone? It’s for reference for myself, since I have very similar finger size as you. Thank you!
Post # 10
lenapie : Thank you! I hadn’t thought if how tight it would be when there is a band. It’s a 1.16 ct, it is 6.76mmx6.74mm 🙂
Post # 11
duchessgummybunns : Thank you! I did end up ordering some bands off etsy