(Closed) Engagement ring solitare too big?

posted 12 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

No, of course its not too big!  People say that when they get a tiny little half carat and want to pretend like that is exactly what they wanted!  Mine is exactly 1.22 carats (odd, yes) and I was surprised he got it that big.  Actually, everyone at work was like, oh my god, its huge blah blah blah…and really its not.  Who cares what they think anyway, if you love it?  Show it off as much as you can – don’t hide it!!!

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2008

My e-ring is a .53 Princess Cut and it’s perfect for me, exactly what I’d hoped for.

My business partner’s e-ring is 2.0 Emerald Cut and it’s perfect for her, exactly what she’d hoped for.

If you LOVE your ring (which I’m sure you do) then forget about those ladies. They clearly are attempting to "justify" their smaller carats by being tactless and rude. Don’t allow their pettiness to affect you!

Cheers,

LORETTA* 

Post # 19
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

1.5c is a great size and in no way too big!  I would reference the old Seinfeld episode… just tell them "it’s real, and it’s spectacular!"

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Hmmm these women are being quite rude and in-your-face about their reactions.  I think it does sound like jealousy, though they may partially be stating their true opinions about the size of the diamond.  But it’s extremely tactless of them to do so.

My ring is also a 1.52 carat solitaire diamond ring.  I personally think it is too big and I’m a little embarrassed by it, but that’s just because it’s not really right for my personality.  I’m a pretty reserved person.  I think it is a beautiful ring but I just don’t like people’s reactions to it. Every time anyone has asked to see my ring, their reaction is ALWAYS one of shock and their first words are usually, "wow that’s so big."  It’s usually just the first thing that pops into people’s heads and then they almost always follow it up with, "it’s so pretty."  So, to an extent, you might need to get used to the idea that others think it’s too large, or at least surprisingly large – that has certainly been my experience.  But it is tactless of them to go on and on about it and start talking about how much they like theirs better.  That just smacks of jealousy and lack of manners.

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2008

i have a half carat and i think it’s perfect for my personality… and our budget!! haha.

 

way to go on your rock!!! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 22
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Helper bee

i think 1.5 carats is perfect. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2008

My center stone is 1.5 carats and with the trillion side stones totals 2.1 carats.  Although I know many women with similar and larger rings, I was very wary of flaunting my ring at the office.  Mostly for fear of getting reactions like yours!  My love for my engagement ring has become an obsession, but I don’t like the spoiled and superficial feeling I get when others gather around me and use the words ‘bling.’  I literally hid my engagement and only told those who noticed my new jewelry on their own.  To me, 1.5 carats is the ideal size because anything bigger than 2 can look gaudy on the wrong person.  I very much understand where you’re coming from and can’t believe the tactlessness that you had to endure!   

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2009

my roommate from college (and bridesmaid to be) has a 1.5 and its beautiful!! i think that is a good size. but of course it all depends on the shape of your rock and the size of your hand! i can understand how you feel though… i have yet to wear my ring to work bc i feel like people might talk!! (its 2.25) my fiance took all this into consideration before proposing and gave me a simple rose gold band to wear when i am at work. maybe you can do the same thing. of course my e-ring is prettier but i love the 2 rings just the same. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 25
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2008

so, i just got engaged november 12th and my fiance gave me a 1.5 carat princess cut engagement ring, and i love mine and i do not think that is in any way too big…. and i am not a showy kind of girl, but u know what… i have waited 33 years for the right man to ask me to marry him, and he did perfect on the wedding ring for me… and as long as you are happy with your ring, no matter what size it is, ignore what anyone else has to say…..    honestly, sometimes when i am showing my friends and if they have smaller rings then i do, theni feel kind of bad about showing it, but i know that their ring means just as much to them as mine does to me…    so all that being said… congrats!!! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 26
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

Congrats on your engagement! 

According to this poll:

http://www.pricescope.com/idealbb/view.asp?topicID=54832

1-1.25 seems to be the average size of diamond for an engagement ring.  And I don’t think there’s a huge difference between 1.5 and 1.25.  However that’s not an official, national poll … But I’d think that if that many people have diamonds that are around your size then it’s not that unusual.

If my fiance could afford it, I would love a diamond that is the size of yours!  The diamond that your fiance chooses should reflect the financial situation that he is in … I would not be happy if he had to take out a loan to get that diamond.  I would think it’s cool that your fiance probably took the time to save up for your diamond.  And it’s nice that it is not a very popular size, otherwise you would feel too common.  Sometimes I think that if 100 people threw their rings in a pot with mine, I would not be able to pick out which one is mine because my ring is a plain solitaire and my diamond size is pretty common.

So the girls at your work are probably just jealous!  Congrats and never mind those girls. 

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I have had that comment on mine from an EXTREMELY tactless (and cocktail party tipsy) aquaintance. It’s 2.5 on a size 6 finger, so yes it is big but I LOVE it! I just looked at the comment maker and I was shocked. I think she realized by my expression that i was highly offended- What I wanted to say to her her was How Dare You! But that would have been just as rude I suppose.

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2007

I have a 1.5 carat princess cut with an "almost eternity" band. ๐Ÿ™‚ At first, was afraid to wear it because I thought it was too gaudy to be worn to work. I love it now and have since gotten over my complex about the ring. Enjoy your ring and how much your man loves you!

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2008

Has anyone had any comments on the flip side?  I KNOW 1.5 carats isn’t small but the very young very naive girlfriend of a friend told me MY ring was ‘cute’ and she wanted something more gaudy.  I almost slapped her then and there.  Instead I proceeded to text every friend I have in disbelief.  The situation got worse because  all of our friends know her boyfriends less than spectacular financial situation and for the rest of the night she kept prodding him about the ring she picked out at Saks.  (Do they have real diamond e-rings?) One that was apparently much gaudier than mine and after 4 months of dating. I’ve remained friendly with her but have to constantly remind myself that she’s 5 years younger than me and just doesn’t have a clue.

Post # 31
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Mine is a little over 1 carat with a micro pave band, and my fiance’s grandmother said- I KID YOU NOT- "it’s so tiny!" when she saw it!  I’ve been on both sides of the ring comparison- how awkward- whether you’re seeing a stone twice or half the size of yours!

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