Engagement Ring Struggle: Too Similar to Future SILs?

posted 1 year ago in Rings
  • poll: Would getting a ring similar to future SIL’s be tacky/weird?
    Yes : (7 votes)
    5 %
    No : (123 votes)
    95 %
  • Post # 2
    2894 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    catmom04 :  If you like it I don’t think it matters. I have a 1.4 round solitaire on a knifeedge band, which is probably one of the more common rings you can get. My best friend has the same one, it didn’t even cross my mind to not get something that someone I’m close to has. 

    Those styles you listed also seem pretty common, it’s not like they have some crazy custom rings.

    Post # 3
    733 posts
    Busy bee

    Get what you want. You will regret choosing something else just to be different. They’re round solitaires, not exactly an uncommon engagement ring choice.

    Post # 4
    14965 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    A single solitare stone is pretty simple and popular, Id’ just go for it.  It’s not exactly unique and “copying” her in any way, shape or form.  It’d be a little different if her was some super unique custom design and you wanted soemthing really similar.

    Post # 5
    4568 posts
    Honey bee

    Ummm…solitaires are pretty much the most basic and popular ring there is because lots of people like them.  Its like saying your jeans are too similar.  Yup.  They all pretty much have the same features and in some great money-making scheme, companies decided to make and sell multiples of them.  They all pretty much look alike.  Even if you get six prong or rose gold, your average person is going to think they look alike and your average person isn’t going to give a f***.  Get what you like and live for yourself, not others.


    Post # 6
    752 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    Round solitaires are probably the most common style of engagement ring, it’s traditional, simple and elegant. Which is why they’ve are so popular. It doesn’t matter, if you like it go for it.

    Post # 7
    5717 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2018

    A white gold solitaire is probably the most common engagement ring style so I wouldn’t worry about it looking like you are copying anyone! 

    Post # 11
    6766 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    hisfavoritewife :  I’ve always loved that setting, and the bezel version as well!

    OP–it really is the most common setting on the planet so plenty of other people are bound to have it. Get what you want and what will make you happy for years to come. It doesn’t matter what anyone else has. 

    Post # 12
    9220 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Get what you love! You’re the one who will be wearing it and looking at it everyday. If they had some super unique special artsy rings, it might be a little weird to get the same one (but even then, I’d probably say go for it), but theirs sound like very, very common ones. I’d side eye either of the FSILs if they got upset about it.

    Post # 13
    2086 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Unless you are imitating your SIL’s super specific custom ring, I don’t think there’s a problem. Not going for a round solitare because your SIL has one is like not wearing black pants because she wears black pants. They’re the most commonly chosen ring. Go for what you want and don’t worry about it.

    Post # 14
    135 posts
    Blushing bee

    That’s pretty funny, those are super common designs so it’s not like they were trying to be unique and you copied them.  Maybe you can pick out some detail on the rings you like to show him how “different” they are?  Or maybe a pave band would satisfy him if you like those.  

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