Post # 1
Hi ladies (and gents!) this is my first post on the Bee! My future Fi and I have started looking at engagement rings together and plan to get engaged in the next 6 months (how exciting!) my only issue is choosing a ring
FF has 2 sisters who are already engaged/married and the rings I like are extremely similar to theirs. His older sister has a while gold 1ct round solitaire in a 4 prong setting, his other sister has a white gold .5ct round solitaire in a 4 prong setting with 4 tiny side stones on each side. The rings I have really been loving having been around 1ct round 4 prong solitaires with and without side stones, only FF thinks that those styles are too similar to his sisters and wants me to have a ring of my own.
How do you all feel about this? I’m really torn. I understand what he’s saying with them being similar but also I like what I like. Ugh help.
Post # 2
catmom04 : If you like it I don’t think it matters. I have a 1.4 round solitaire on a knifeedge band, which is probably one of the more common rings you can get. My best friend has the same one, it didn’t even cross my mind to not get something that someone I’m close to has.
Those styles you listed also seem pretty common, it’s not like they have some crazy custom rings.
Post # 3
Get what you want. You will regret choosing something else just to be different. They’re round solitaires, not exactly an uncommon engagement ring choice.
Post # 4
A single solitare stone is pretty simple and popular, Id’ just go for it. It’s not exactly unique and “copying” her in any way, shape or form. It’d be a little different if her was some super unique custom design and you wanted soemthing really similar.
Post # 5
Ummm…solitaires are pretty much the most basic and popular ring there is because lots of people like them. Its like saying your jeans are too similar. Yup. They all pretty much have the same features and in some great money-making scheme, companies decided to make and sell multiples of them. They all pretty much look alike. Even if you get six prong or rose gold, your average person is going to think they look alike and your average person isn’t going to give a f***. Get what you like and live for yourself, not others.
Post # 6
Round solitaires are probably the most common style of engagement ring, it’s traditional, simple and elegant. Which is why they’ve are so popular. It doesn’t matter, if you like it go for it.
Post # 7
A white gold solitaire is probably the most common engagement ring style so I wouldn’t worry about it looking like you are copying anyone!
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! He’s trying to suggest oval or cushion cut center stones if I go with the solitaire settings, or a halo if I go with a round stone so I just feel blah like his sisters “feelings” (like they would care) are more important than what I like.
Post # 9
What about a solitaire with diamonds on the basket to keep the solitaire look but make it different? This “Julia” setting is just an example. (Photo credit: http://www.loveaffairdiamonds.com/julia-solitaire-mounting/)
Post # 10
hisfavoritewife : I really do like that! It’s beautiful! I just love the soilatre look and that really spices it up
Post # 11
hisfavoritewife : I’ve always loved that setting, and the bezel version as well!
OP–it really is the most common setting on the planet so plenty of other people are bound to have it. Get what you want and what will make you happy for years to come. It doesn’t matter what anyone else has.
Post # 12
Get what you love! You’re the one who will be wearing it and looking at it everyday. If they had some super unique special artsy rings, it might be a little weird to get the same one (but even then, I’d probably say go for it), but theirs sound like very, very common ones. I’d side eye either of the FSILs if they got upset about it.
Post # 13
Unless you are imitating your SIL’s super specific custom ring, I don’t think there’s a problem. Not going for a round solitare because your SIL has one is like not wearing black pants because she wears black pants. They’re the most commonly chosen ring. Go for what you want and don’t worry about it.
Post # 14
That’s pretty funny, those are super common designs so it’s not like they were trying to be unique and you copied them. Maybe you can pick out some detail on the rings you like to show him how “different” they are? Or maybe a pave band would satisfy him if you like those.
Post # 15
I guess I’m just getting salty with FF! I mean it’ll still be different because I want yellow gold and platinum prongs but he’s really pushing for a different cut vs a round. I wanna kick him! Lol jk but really…