Engagement Ring Struggle: Too Similar to Future SILs?

posted 1 year ago in Rings
  • poll: Would getting a ring similar to future SIL’s be tacky/weird?
    Yes : (7 votes)
    5 %
    No : (123 votes)
    95 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    321 posts
    Helper bee

    catmom04 :  do you like yellow gold (or rose gold)? Maybe you can do that or get a peek-a-boo diamond (like the one pic I attached lol) which will make it a little unique plus it’s super cute 

    Post # 17
    Member
    354 posts
    Helper bee

    Get what you like. Who cares if your ring is similar to theirs, no one on this planet has a completely original ring. Unless it’s like an onion ring or something.

    I went to a bachelorette party a few weeks ago and of all the married/engaged women there (about 12) I was the ONLY one who didn’t have a solitaire. 

    Post # 18
    Member
    5721 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2018

    catmom04 :  it’s pretty harsh of your boyfriend to say his sister’s feelings are more important than what you want. What he really means is their feelings are more important than yours and that is a major problem.

    Post # 20
    Member
    349 posts
    Helper bee

    catmom04 :  Have you thought about going old school? You could get an Old European Cut with the gorgeous chunky facets that give off lots of rainbows. It’s still a round cut, but it’s antique. That would pair beautifully with something like the Julia. (Not pushing that particular setting, but it’s a gorgeous option.)

    You can find OECs online at Love Affair Diamonds, Jewels by Grace, Old World Diamonds, Ivy and Rose, Victor Barbone, Pebble and Polish, Lang’s Antiques, EraGem, Gesners, or super ideal cut OECs at August Vintage. 

    Old European Cut:

     

    Post # 23
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    173 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    catmom04 :  The rings you’re describing sound pretty common tbh. It’s not like your sister in laws have 3 carat rubies and you like the same! 

    I don’t think it should be an issue to your fiancée. 

    Post # 24
    Member
    349 posts
    Helper bee

    catmom04 :  Check August Vintage. He does a super ideal cut OEC moissanite. You will not find better than him.

    Post # 26
    Member
    6024 posts
    Bee Keeper

    catmom04 :  You are not being “crazy”. At all. I am going to echo what PPs have already said: solitaires are a very common ring style. And 4-prong solitaires are also very common. My guess is that a 4-prong solitaire is one of the most common types of setting out there. I don’t see how his sisters could be offended by you having your own beautiful round solitaire, unless they also get upset when they see strangers on the street wearing the same ring style. It’s a beautiful and graceful and timeless style of ring, which is why it is so popular!

    There are a lot of ways you can make simple changes to your solitaire to make it more “you”. You can add detailing under the stone or in a basket around the stone. You can add some symbol that is meaningful to you and your sweetheart into the profile or band of the ring. You could do a different type of prong from what his sisters have. You could include a surprise stone of your sweetheart’s birthstone or a special engraving that is meaningful to the two of you. You’ve already mentioned you want to have your ring made in yellow gold with platinum prongs, so that is already a difference. Basically, the sky is the limit on things you can do. But, whatever you choose (or do not choose ^.~) to do, it is important that you fall in love with your own ring, and that it is something you will love seeing on your finger every day.

    Post # 28
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    1721 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    I agree with PPs lol you have nothing to worry about unless your SILs have like SUPER CUSTOM RINGS WITH A MILLION SPECIAL THINGS ABOUT THEM THAT ARE NOT FOUND ANYWHEREEEEE. 

    🙂

    Post # 29
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    680 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    Get what you want!! Insist on it and be firm. I find his argument weird and somehow insulting. 

    Plus: good choice 🙂 i sport a 6 prong solitaire and I almost find it unique amongs all the round-in-cushion-halo rings out there.  

    Gotta love the classics

    Post # 30
    Member
    680 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    Oh and you got your answer clear as day. I haven’t seen a poll here where literally everyone agreed! 

    (I first replied and then did the poll)

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