Post # 1
Hello bees! This is my first post after being a lurker for a while. My boyfriend is planning to propose sometime next year, probably in late spring or early summer so he can have time to save up, but possibly before that. Anything could happen; he says it will be “as soon as possible”. But, we have already started hunting down the perfect ring!
We live in Mexico right now, and I’m from the US originally. We are, however, planning on movins somewhere in Europe as soon as I can finish med school and as soon as he has enough work experience as an architect to get a master’s degree. The top candidates are Austria, Sweden, Germany, Switzerland, the UK, and Italy. I’ve heard that the concept of a big ring is rather “american” and that people in other countries tend to view huge rocks as tacky. I know beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but would bees in other countries, mainly European, consider this to be a true enough statement?
I personally don’t really know what I want yet, and it may be somewhat influenced by how a ring is viewed in these counties. On one hand, I think tiny diamonds are lovely and elegant and I never wanted anything too big. But as the reality hits me of how important an engagement ring is to me (I promised my honey that I will never ever take it off for as long as I can keep it on and I do will never upgrade, so I can conserve the original meaning of the ring) I wonder if maybe I should suggest more blingy or flashy rings, since it will be to me the most important jewel in my life. I just want some different views on sizes so I can have a better idea of what would be best for me.
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
If you don’t plan on ever upgrading/changing. I’d stick with something classic and in a conservative size.
Post # 3
Honestly? It depends how big. If it was really really large, I would either assume, depending on the wearer, that:
– It was a fake
– The wearer was a footballer’s wife/ CHAV/ lower class “done good”
– The wearer was an American
Post # 4
I might mention as well that my idea of “blingy” is something like .70 cts to 1 ct. And small, maybe around .33 cts. And also, I’m just generally curious as to how e-rings are seen in different countries 🙂
Post # 5
I was raised in Europe but moved here 4 years ago. I very rarely saw ERs on women’ hand but if I did it was mostly between .25 to .50. One or two occasions I sawwhat loooked like a full carat.
I am not sure how my ER (I have 1.51) would be considered there as I have never seen a ring that big there. Plus mine is a princess cut and I have never ever saw any other cuts than round. They might think it’s fake.
In my opinion, go with what you like. Everyone will always have an opinion regardless of the size, shape, clarity..it’s your ER and what matters is what you think of it.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens
I definitely see the big blingy rings as an American thing. I’m in Australia and most of my circle have halos now, which would be well under 1ct tw. Mine is an emerald cut 3 stone 1.1ct tw, and most people call it a rock. It’s definitely bigger than standard where I am.
FutureMrsOwley: I love that you see the sentimentality of the ring and don’t want to ever upgrade. Upgrading seems to be another American thing, as I don’t know anyone who would think that was normal. Of course all things American seem to become the norm here eventually, so I’m waiting for people here to lose their sentimentality. Personally, I chose my style because I know that I will wear it forever, and I want it to still look classical when I’m 80.
Post # 7
Rachel631: just curious, what is considered really really large near you?
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
My husband is from England, I am from the US. He chose a small cluster ring for me (I have no idea of carats). I love the sentiment, and I doubt I will ever upgrade, but I did choose to get 2 small diamond bands as wedding bands to accentuate. I notice in the UK the rings are less blingy.
Post # 9
I’m from Ireland, living in Canada and I’m not sure. Plenty of my friends have fairly big diamonds (1 carat plus) but they are probably not as elaborate/ornate as some I have seen here and in the US i.e. simpler settings and they don’t tend to stack bands – they usually have one engagement ring and one wedding ring and that’s it – no upgrading after that! They do tend to be round brilliant or princess cut – very few emeralds/pears/marquises/anything else – but I don’t think this is especially a European thing, I think something like 70/80% of diamonds sold are RB?
Post # 10
Even if you regard .7 – 1ct blingy, it’s a good size for an every day ring that won’t stand out amongst the crowd and that will never feel too large now or in 20 years time … Even in Europe I’d say you’d feel pretty normal. Mine is .75, I personally don’t see my size as blingy at all, I’d even say it’s quite conservative. So if you like that size, I’d say go for it regardless of where you plan to live.
Post # 11
FutureMrsOwley: depending on where in Europe. We tend to generalize Europe as “one” but there can be big differences. I’d say probably in the UK .75 won’t be something too big. However, here in Germany, it will stand out. Unless you are close to a town where there are military bases and people are more used to seeing American women with their rings. Or maybe Berlin and Munich. Big cities. Normally just wedding bands and if you do get an engagement ring, as they are becoming a bit trendy, it’s nothing big. .50 is kind of huge for normal people hehe.
A few weeks ago I went with FH to a wedding in Spain and we spent some time the day before with the bride and groom. Her engagement ring was probably no more than .40. In Spain traditionally once you are married you wear matching gold rings. I think on the right hand as here in Germany. At the wedding I kept looking at all the ladies rings as they were from all over Europe and pretty much all I could see were plain gold bands. I was sitting there thinking of how my “big” blingy ring would definitely stand out if I was wearing it already. I am considering getting a plain gold band when we have our less formal ceremony here in Germany. Not because I worry it will be considered too big. But thinking if I wear it on my left hand as we were it in my home country, and to top it of it’s not a plain band, if people will actually even think I’m married! So I’m thinking of wearing my blinged out look on the left and just a plain, matching band here in Germany. Maybe that could work for you too? Idk
I wouldn’t be too worried as the max size you want is not too big. Mine isn’t either for US standards. But here it will look like a huge rock! Lol
Post # 12
I’m not sure if its just an American thing but here in Australia the average size seems a lot smaller and quite often simpler. I think its a practicality thing, when people see big rings you often hear “I wouldn’t want to carry that around every day.”
In my circle big rings are considered tacky and trashy.
Post # 13
i’m in ny and i’m starting to notice women wearing only bands now.
Post # 14
Meilaa: australia is a big place, that definitely isn’t true for Sydney. I would actually compare the rings i see to those I see on the bee.
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2017 - California
I have a friend from Brazil. She and her husband wear thin, matching gold bands. She’s been in the US for awhile now but still thinks seeing big rings is strange.