(Closed) Engagement rings in different countries, and how everyone views size?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
3036 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

If you don’t plan on ever upgrading/changing. I’d stick with something classic and in a conservative size. 

Post # 3
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Honestly? It depends how big. If it was really really large, I would either assume, depending on the wearer, that:

– It was a fake

– The wearer was a footballer’s wife/ CHAV/ lower class “done good”

– The wearer was an American

Post # 5
768 posts
Busy bee

I was raised in Europe but moved here 4 years ago. I very rarely saw ERs on women’ hand but if I did it was mostly between .25 to .50. One or two occasions I sawwhat loooked like a full carat.

I am not sure how my ER (I have 1.51) would be considered there as I have never seen a ring that big there. Plus mine is a princess cut and I have never ever saw any other cuts than round. They might think it’s fake.

In my opinion, go with what you like. Everyone will always have an opinion regardless of the size, shape, clarity..it’s your ER and what matters is what you think of it. 

Post # 6
416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens

I definitely see the big blingy rings as an American thing. I’m in Australia and most of my circle have halos now, which would be well under 1ct tw. Mine is an emerald cut 3 stone 1.1ct tw, and most people call it a rock. It’s definitely bigger than standard where I am.

FutureMrsOwley:  I love that you see the sentimentality of the ring and don’t want to ever upgrade. Upgrading seems to be another American thing, as I don’t know anyone who would think that was normal. Of course all things American seem to become the norm here eventually, so I’m waiting for people here to lose their sentimentality. Personally, I chose my style because I know that I will wear it forever, and I want it to still look classical when I’m 80.

Post # 7
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Rachel631:  just curious, what is considered really really large near you? 

Post # 8
2963 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

My husband is from England, I am from the US. He chose a small cluster ring for me (I have no idea of carats). I love the sentiment, and I doubt I will ever upgrade, but I did choose to get 2 small diamond bands as wedding bands to accentuate. I notice in the UK the rings are less blingy.

Post # 9
220 posts
Helper bee

I’m from Ireland, living in Canada and I’m not sure.  Plenty of my friends have fairly big diamonds (1 carat plus) but they are probably not as elaborate/ornate as some I have seen here and in the US i.e. simpler settings and they don’t tend to stack bands – they usually have one engagement ring and one wedding ring and that’s it – no upgrading after that!  They do tend to be round brilliant or princess cut – very few emeralds/pears/marquises/anything else – but I don’t think this is especially a European thing, I think something like 70/80% of diamonds sold are RB?

Post # 10
1341 posts
Bumble bee

Even if you regard .7 – 1ct blingy, it’s a good size for an every day ring that won’t stand out amongst the crowd and that will never feel too large now or in 20 years time … Even in Europe I’d say you’d feel pretty normal. Mine is .75, I personally don’t see my size as blingy at all, I’d even say it’s quite conservative. So if you like that size, I’d say go for it regardless of where you plan to live. 

Post # 11
1989 posts
Buzzing bee

FutureMrsOwley:  depending on where in Europe. We tend to generalize Europe as “one” but there can be big differences. I’d say probably in the UK .75 won’t be something too big. However, here in Germany, it will stand out. Unless you are close to a town where there are military bases and people are more used to seeing American women with their rings. Or maybe Berlin and Munich. Big cities. Normally just wedding bands and if you do get an engagement ring, as they are becoming a bit trendy, it’s nothing big. .50 is kind of huge for normal people hehe.

A few weeks ago I went with FH to a wedding in Spain and we spent some time the day before with the bride and groom. Her engagement ring was probably no more than .40. In Spain traditionally once you are married you wear matching gold rings. I think on the right hand as here in Germany. At the wedding I kept looking at all the ladies rings as they were from all over Europe and pretty much all I could see were plain gold bands. I was sitting there thinking of how my “big” blingy ring would definitely stand out if I was wearing it already. I am considering getting a plain gold band when we have our less formal ceremony here in Germany. Not because I worry it will be considered too big. But thinking if I wear it on my left hand as we were it in my home country, and to top it of it’s not a plain band, if people will actually even think I’m married! So I’m thinking of wearing my blinged out look on the left and just a plain, matching band here in Germany. Maybe that could work for you too? Idk

I wouldn’t be too worried as the max size you want is not too big. Mine isn’t either for US standards. But here it will look like a huge rock! Lol

Post # 12
18 posts

I’m not sure if its just an American thing but here in Australia the average size seems a lot smaller and quite often simpler. I think its a practicality thing, when people see big rings you often hear “I wouldn’t want to carry that around every day.”


In my circle big rings are considered tacky and trashy. 

Post # 13
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

i’m in ny and i’m starting to notice women wearing only bands now. 

Post # 14
1341 posts
Bumble bee

Meilaa:  australia is a big place, that definitely isn’t true for Sydney. I would actually compare the rings i see to those I see on the bee. 

Post # 15
8899 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2017 -  California

I have a friend from Brazil. She and her husband wear thin, matching gold bands. She’s been in the US for awhile now but still thinks seeing big rings is strange.

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