(Closed) Engagement Shower

posted 4 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
4525 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Never heard of one around here (NJ).

ETA: sounds like a gift grab to me




Post # 4
7218 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Never heard of that. All of the invites I’ve received for engagement parties asked us not to bring gifts.

Maybe they’re not going to have a regular shower?

Post # 5
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014


           Are they combining a engagement party and bridal shower all in one? I’ve never heard anyone call something an engagement shower personally. Maybe it is a regional thing not 100% sure. When you RSVP or even before hand maybe you can clarify with whom you call so that way you can prepare yourself as to what to expect!

Post # 6
1681 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Ladybird_:  Thats weird. Maybe she’s not going to have a bridal shower, so they called it an “engagement shower” so that it’s coed? Or maybe they’re planning to have a small wedding which would = a small bridal shower. Maybe they’re inviting more people to this than they are the wedding?

I’ll be interested in more details about this!

Post # 9
9550 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Since a traditional wedding shower is much closer to the wedding than to the engagement, maybe they are calling this shower an “engagement shower” because they wanted to have really early. I’ve never heard of that, but I don’t have a problem with it. All showers are gift grabby, it’s the nature of the party. And most people that I know have had multiple showers. I had 2 – one for my family and one for his family. Though most people shouldn’t be invited to multiple showers unless they are close family  or in the bridal party.

Post # 11
5191 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Never heard of it. I’ve been to engagement parties, which are generally just a celebration, but the word “shower” implies that gifts are required. Not saying your friend is a jerk, but having more than one gift receiving party is tacky. 

Post # 12
9550 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Ladybird_:  Yeah, I think it  comes down to hhow much overlap there is in guest lists. If  everyone invited to the “engagement shower” is also invited to the “wedding shower” I’d probably roll my eyes at that. But if they’re mostly different guest lists, aside from the VIP (really close freinds/family), I think it’ fine.

Post # 14
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yep, “shower” implies gifts to be purchased by the lucky invitees.  Some people get to purchase the couple 3!! gifts between now and the wedding day?  That’s just ridiculous. 


Post # 15
846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It’s not a thing. It is, however, another good way to make ppl buy you gifts with their hard earned money. It’s greedy.

Post # 16
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Pretty sure it isn’t a regional thing. This just sounds like a gift grab, especially since they are having another shower in the summer. We had an engagement party, but we had people over to a bbq and we just celebrated being engaged, no presents at all.

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