(Closed) engagement time

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: engagement time
    less than 1 year : (24 votes)
    17 %
    1~2 years` : (39 votes)
    27 %
    2~3 years : (36 votes)
    25 %
    3~4 years : (14 votes)
    10 %
    4~5 years : (12 votes)
    8 %
    over 5 years : (19 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    2999 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I have very strong feelings about couples who get engaged after dating less than a year.  To each is own I guess but I just don’t understand it and “when you know, you know” is not an appropriate response.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2470 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I think getting engaged after 1.5-2 years is fine, if you feel that you really know the person well enough.

    My Fiance and I were together for four years before we got engaged, just because we were so young.

    Post # 5
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    1480 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    I don’t mind when people get engaged after less than a year (I’m biased though, because I might be doing that myself lol) but I don’t think it’s wise to get married in less than a year. No matter when SO and I get engaged, we won’t get married until Fall 2014 at the earliest. So if he proposed tomorrow, that would be a 23 month engagement and we’d be together for about 3 years at that point.

    To each their own though :]

    Post # 6
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    4692 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    Honestly, you need 12+ months if you are super creative and want to do lots of DIY stuff!

    Post # 7
    Member
    2389 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think age makes a big difference.  I got engaged less than 3 months after meeting my husband, and we were married 8 months after that.  When we got married he was 41 and I was 38.  When you’re older I think you’ve had enough experience that you know what you want and what you don’t want.

    Also, when you’ve been waiting for the right person for as long as we had, you don’t want to waste any more time!  We wanted to begin married life as soon as possible.

    Post # 8
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    718 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I totally read this poll wrong!  My Fiance and I dated for almost 3 1/2 years before he proposed.  He would have done it a year sooner but had a horrible bicycle accident (and therefore too many bills). He made the right decision.  

    Post # 9
    Member
    513 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    i met my Fiance in July 2011 and we got engaged last Christmas, but were not getting married until May 2013

    Post # 10
    Member
    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think a suitable time would be between 3 and 4 years of dating. Fiance and I dated for 6 years Undecided

    That’s partly because he is a man child and partly because the economy has been a mean bitc* to us!

    Post # 11
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    1022 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    i think it depends on you and your Fiance and age as mentioned.

     

    my fiance and I were really good friends for 3 years before we started dating, so it’s not like I didn’t know him at all, and were engaged less then 1 year after offically dating. but our engagement will be 18 months or more so not any rushing.

    Post # 12
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    4692 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    I read it wrong. I heard you need 2 years to get over the “lust period”. Science says so, not me. We got engaged at 2.5 but I am almost 30.

    Post # 14
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    510 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @Lily_of_the_valley:  We got engaged 5 months to the day of meeting. Best and easiest decision either of us ever made. Will be married 14 months after meeting. We have both had previous long relationships, both in our mid 30s and it is absolutely the right thing for us.

    Post # 15
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    3697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Your post wasn’t really clear – are you asking how long we dating before becoming engaged (5.5 years) or how long we were engaged before marrying (8 months)?

    Post # 16
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    1583 posts
    Bumble bee

    I am open to one year of dating and one year of engagement. anything more would be uncivilized! (remember that?) haaaaa nostalgia

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