Post # 1
I was discussing engagement rings with a friend the other day and was surprised when she told me she doesn’t care about the engagement ring (she wants one but doesn’t see much meaning into it) but really value the wedding band. To me it always felt like the ering was the focal piece of my set and the band added to it, a little bit like adding a new chapter to a story.
So what do you care most about and why? What symbolism do you cherish most? Or do they have equal meanings?
Post # 2
I’ve never really compared them but I guess realistically a wedding band should have more meaning. An engagement ring just shows intent whereas a wedding ring is an outward symbol of the actual commitment.
I’m sure a lot of people prefer their engagement ring because of the style though, which is obviously fine, but I don’t see how it has more meaning.
Post # 3
My engagement ring. Both are important to me but my engagement ring is more special. I think maybe because it feels more like it was a gift, whereas the wedding band doesn’t. Plus my engagement ring is prettier. The wedding band just compliments it.
Post # 4
I think my engagement ring because of all the time and thought he put into getting it for me.
Post # 5
For me, it’s the engagement ring. We spent months finding the perfect diamond in our budget, and he wanted to give me the ring of my dreams. My band is special too, but I’m particularly attached to the diamond in my engagement ring.
Post # 6
theweddingunplanner : I care most about my engagement ring. My husband picked it for me and it was a total surprise. I picked the wedding band and while I’d be upset if I lost it I wouldn’t be AS upset as if I lost the engagement ring.
Post # 7
My engagement ring, because it has so much symbolism for us. I have a sapphire and diamond engagement ring, sapphire as I am sure everyone knows is for the month of September, not only did we always want a September wedding (and had one) but my SigO’s Birthday is also in September and with the diamonds there are 28, the age I was when we met. So although the wedding band signifies the marriage and that’s important to me, the engagement ring has more sentiments attached. 🙂
Post # 8
My fiance and I both have engagement rings, and for us, we value the engagement rings more because they feel like they represent the emotional cementing of our commitment to each other. The wedding bands make it more societally “official”, but we put way more time (and money) into selecting our engagement rings than the wedding bands.
Post # 9
jaydeeplatinum : wow you put so much thought into it! I love it!
Post # 10
yes engagement ring for reasons other posters have mentioned. my husband picked it out on his own and when i see it it reminds me of him and that he was so thoughtful in choosing this for me. my wedding band, while beautiful, is more just a piece of jewelry i picked out for myself.
Post # 11
theweddingunplanner : the wedding band means the most to me because we exchanged our bands when we vowed our lives to each other.
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard
Wedding ring. It’s much closer to my style and what I wanted in my jewellery versus my compromise engagement ring. Plus my husband gave it to me after working very hard to have it created when I was having a super rough pregnancy and we had even less money than now. I couldn’t not love it.
Post # 13
- Wedding: February 2017 - Hagakyrkan
theweddingunplanner : I would choose my wedding band everyday if I could only keep one. Even before when I had a small solitaire ering (it has since been remade into a plain gold band and the stone will be set in a pendant) and it was worth more money. The wedding band is what I actually got married in (though I had my husband put on both my rings at our wedding so they would both hold the marriage-symbolism, but everybody knew which ring was my wedding band.
Post # 14
theweddingunplanner : I’m a hopeless romantic! Haha I actually fell in love with the ring before I knew how many diamonds there were, after we ordered it I realized the significance, just solidified that it was supposed to be mine! I always wanted a sapphire and a sept wedding 🙂
Post # 15
To me, wedding band for sure. An ering is nice, but I could live without it, it’s just a promise.
To be the wedding band is the symbol of ongoing lifelong committment and part of the actual ceremony . And I appreciate that it’s humble (usually), as love should be.