Engagement vs wedding ring: what are you most attached to?

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 16
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2021

I’m not yet married but I can’t imagine valuing the band more than my ering. FH worked extremely hard to find the most perfect peach sapphire for me, and that is PRICELESS. The amount of stones he looked at and the care with which he selected mine makes my ering invaluable to me. 

Post # 17
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Wedding band for sure, I love my ering but I love my band more. Unlike other bees, we didn’t choose an ering together and it was a total surprise and not really practical for *my* lifestyle. Our bands on the other hand we chose together and tweaked during the customization process. They are matching and mean a lot to us 🙂 

Post # 18
3846 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Wedding band for sure. We got engaged without a ring and I got my rings months after we got engaged, so they are pretty and I love having them, but I’m much less attached to them because they don’t represent my engagement.

But my wedding band, he held my hand and slipped it onto my finger while vowing to spend forever with me in front of our family and friends. That’s what it represents. The wedding band is a symbol of our entire wedding day, and that’s what I think about every time I look at it.

Post # 19
12 posts

I value my wedding band more. My engagement ring is a family heirloom, but my wedding ring was designed by my husband (and symbolizes ‘forever’ whereas the engagement ring symbolizes the initial intent to get married).

Post # 20
126 posts
Blushing bee

Definitely my engagement ring. Although I picked the setting, my husband spent so much time researching diamonds and picked out such a beautiful stone that was more than I could have hoped for. I chose my wedding bands (I have two), and although I love them as well, my engagement ring reminds me of how much thought and effort my husband put in to getting something I’ll love forever. 

Post # 21
1417 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Wedding band for sure. The rings we gave when we promised to spend forever together are the ones I feel truly sentimental about. 

Post # 22
7841 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

My original rings came as a set, and I always viewed them that way. If I’d had to choose, though, I would say that the wedding band signifies the vows, the union, and the marriage. The ER is simply a promise; the wedding band is the fulfillment of that promise. The ER means nothing without the band, IMO.

From a financial standpoint, of course most people would choose the ER, but that still shouldn’t automatically give it more meaning. 

Post # 23
574 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I would be a lot more upset if i lost my engagement ring than my wedding band. I would go as far as saying I probably woudln’t even flinch if i lost my wedding band, I would just buy a new one. It was a cheapy from etsy! I still love it and I’ve actually not taken it off since we’ve been married, but it wouldn’t even be close for me haha.

Post # 24
2987 posts
Sugar bee

Although I love my band I think my engagement ring is more special. My set is very similar to Princess Diana’s/Kate’s and you can barely see the band. It’s the engagement ring to me that holds the uniqueness and represents my personality. 

Post # 26
760 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Engagement ring is way more important to me. I plan to wear it my whole life. My wedding band is a cheapie I got quickly before the wedding, assuming I’d stack and switch it out a few times over the years. 

Post # 27
860 posts
Busy bee

My engagement ring. It was what my DH presented to me when he first knew he wanted me to be his wife, and it reminds me of that joyful time when we were fresh in love and dazzled by each other. It was also significantly more expensive, designed with me in mind, and very beautiful. I actually have upgraded once, and plan to again, but have never altered my original e-ring and still adore it.

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