Engagement Waiting

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - City, State

First post! My SO and I have been together for over 11 years. We met in high school though, so we had a longer wait than most, my SO wanted to finish college and buy a house before getting married. Very sensible. I’ve been ready for a proposal for about 3 years, but my SO is a planner. This spring we had another discussion about it and I told him that I’d like to be engaged by the end of the year and he agreed that it was the right time. He won’t tell me any details because he wants it to be a surprise but I do know that he has bought the ring, I just don’t think he has it in his possession. I believe it’s either custom or he had to special order it. I also know he wants to propose in the Fall season, so I have a feeling it’s going to be happening in the next few weeks! And I am over the moon about it. I’ve been more than patient but there isn’t anyone I’d rather be with. 

Post # 32
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Newbee

 

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vanessa9090 :  Joining you! 27 as well, bf is 28, been together for almost 5 years. In our relationship I’ve definitely felt more ready for things first (moving in together, now wanting to engaged, etc), and he’s said it would happen before our anniversary in several months but not before the end of this year… knowing this, I still find myself getting disappointed everytime he plans/does something he knows I’ll like, which is so bad of me. I can’t help but still hope for something at Thanksgiving or Christmas even though he’s specifically said not before end of this year.

I’m driving myself crazy! Reading these boards and knowing we’re all in this together really helps.

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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vanessa9090 :  hey! I am new-ish here. I love reading all the posts and peoples thoughts! It’s good to know you aren’t alone!

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee

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vanessa9090 :  Waiting is so hard! My boyfriend just mentioned this weekend that he knows he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. You know just casually threw that in there. Eye roll.. hahah men are so strange. Of course he couldn’t romantically say that to me, he had to just throw it out there like a fact during a conversation about getting engaged. Felt so weird!! Part of me wanted to be like. STOP… wait.. say that again? hahaha. 

I move in with my boyfriend of a year next month. When we move in I am going to take off my grandma’s heirloom ring I wear on my right hand and put it in the apartment where he knows where it is. I am going to tell him when he is ready he knows where the ring is. 

He was opposed to using my heirloom ring at first because i, “wear it all the time”. He basically felt like it wasn’t special, or made him look like a cheapskate i guess? So now I also need to give him some ideas on how he can take it to a jeweler and slightly alter it to make it unique to us. So far my ideas are… insert a blue sapphire into the inside of the ring that you can only see if you take it off and look inside. Or he can engrave our initials on the inside band… or he can get a bigger middle stone for the ring and turn the original diamond into a necklace to give to me to wear on our wedding day. Those are the things I can think of so far? lol. Attached a photo of the ring. If anyone has ideas!! 

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Las Vegas, NV

Hi ladies,

 

I have been with my SO a little over a year now. We have talked about getting married since the first month of our relationship. I know that’s crazy but we are both older 32/33 so we kinda know we both want to be together forever. We have since had a couple of conversations about getting married. We are planning to get married in Nov 2020 possibly on the 20th and only having very close friends and family in a small ceremony. He mentioned to me that he would like to wait two years to get married when we first started going out and I told him that was fine with me. I was previously married for 5 years and went through a divorce last summer so I am in no hurry. I told him a few days ago I am ready when he is ready. He is the love my life and I told him I would wait for him and not pressure him. In my heart I do hope that he proposes in July 2020 since that will be our 3 year anniversary. We have discussed rings and prices but I told him and showed him what I liked but I made it clear that it doesn’t have to be super expensive as I have had an expensive ring before and it wasn’t a huge deal to me now. It’s just important that I get something I like and that is comfortable to wear, I even jokingly said he could buy me a ribbon to tie around my finger. Also we decided since we are getting older we would be ok with conceiving a child before marriage so we have been TTC since August of this year. All and All I am hoping to have one child and be engaged by 2020 but who knows things don’t always go to plan. 

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee

Hahah oh no!! Yeah I’m finding myself looking at wedding stuff and ring photos. It’s torture lolz. Hope your guy makes his move soon!! 

 

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Post # 41
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Blushing bee

I’ll be 28 soon, and my SO is 31. We’ve been together for a little over 3 1/2 years. He knows I want to be married by 2020 and knows I want at least a year to plan properly. However, he apparently wants to ask my dad’s permission first before proposing, which I think is sweet. My parents are coming to visit in the next couple weeks so I’m going to make sure to leave him and my dad alone for a couple minutes a few times, haha. Last night he referred to me as his soon to be wife, so that’s a good sign. 😊He also wont give me a hint on my birthday present, so maybe? I’m trying not to get my hopes up that it will be that soon, but hopefully by the end of the year!

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Blushing bee

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vanessa9090 :  October 24th! I’m trying not to get my hopes up, haha, but its possible!

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - York, ME

Just wanted to update and say he proposed last Saturday! It was a beautiful day, and he proposed with his great-grandmothers engagement ring.  We were checking out ceremony locations, this photo was taken where we’ll be getting married next spring!

 

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