(Closed) Engagement weirdness…..?

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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futuresmith4 :  Have a lot of celebratory sex with your FIANCÉ!!!!  No?  Is that not how everyone celebrates?  Anyway that was my “engagement experience.”

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee

I know how you feel. BOTH my sisters got pregnant days before I got engaged (I only knew about one of them, the other was unplanned and she was being quiet about for a bit). When I called my dad he sounded so freaked out and not happy! But he was just stressing because that’s a lot all at once for him and my step mom, and all three of us sisters live in different states, lol. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I was kinda in shock, but we’d been together so long I’d kinda written off that it would happen.  Then I got really scared that even though we’d been together almost 2 decades, I’d not make a good wife.  

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

After my husband proposed we went to Lowes lol. I can’t remember what we were going for, but we needed something and so we went and got it. We laughed about it later because it was like nothing changed. It will probably hit you once you start announcing it to family. I don’t remember if we went out to celebrate. I’m pretty sure we didn’t because my husband cooked dinner that night, so that was our celebration. Very low key which was perfect. 

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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futuresmith4 : Congratulations! So sorry that your engagement isn’t living up to your expectations, but it is truly special – you just agreed to marry the love of your life! I was on cloud 9 when my husband proposed, but it probably helped that he whisked me away on vacation and it was a romantic moment. We had an engagement party a few weeks after we got back! We went to dinner at the restaurant where we had our first date then met friends out at a different restaurant/bar for the celebration. Try doing something special with just you two and then family and friends! 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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futuresmith4 :  Your ring is absolutely gorgeous! The engagement didn’t really hit me until we started touring venues and had our engagement photo session. Congrats!

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Go off on a little weekend trip to celebrate and get away from everyday life! I was really happy when my Fiance proposed but it wasn’t like my whole world shifted on it’s axis. I actually didn’t tell my family for like a week lol (they live far away and I don’t really like making ‘announcements’ or phone calls so…) It was very special but it was the natural next step, so it wasn’t like it was a totally new idea, you know? See it as a good thing – the fact that it seems like an ordinary part of your life means you are 100% ready to do this and communicated well to each other about it!

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I think once you share the news with everyone and get all the congratulations and hugs, it will feel more like something has ‘happened.’ Right now, it is just a secret so it won’t feel any different except the quiet excitement you feel inside, but when you see people reacting to the news I am sure you will get that special engaged feeling. 🙂

Congrats bee!

Post # 25
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Eh. When Fiance proposed he was excited to call and tell his family and disappointed because they really didn’t care. The exact response was “Oh.” and then they continued on and asked him about something else.

Its not at all like the movies. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think once you announce to people you’ll start feeling like it’s more real. We told family and close friends that night (most of them were expecting it) and the excitement and congratulations just made the engagement all that more exciting. We announced on FB the next day, so there was that rush of excitement from extended friends/family. And I announced at work and my boss was so excited, she bought me a card and had flowers delivered. Everyone is so excited and happy for us, that it’s making it seem so much more real! 🙂 Once you start announcing, I think that will make it seem a bit different.

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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futuresmith4 :  Congrats! Beautiful ring:) I understand completely how you’re feeling. My fiancé had planned this big proposal, but then the night he asked my parents for my hand he unexpectingly came over to my house and proposed right in the doorway hahah Poor guy couldn’t wait any longer having that ring in his pocket. It was the sweetest surprise ever and I was sooo happy but I remember being upset that he had to go to work the next morning. I was in college at the time and he lived an hour away from me and had proposed at 10 at night so he had to be up at 4:30 to drive to work in the morning. I was for some reason expecting to get to have a long romantic day with him celebrating lol Apparently the world doesn’t stop when we get engaged, who knew?!!😂

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

I was surprised after my engagement how few people actually acknowledged it or asked to see my ring.  There was little excitement to be had.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Congratulations, i think once you start announcing it and showing everyone your ring, their excited reactions will help it sink in a little…..and you will get your “experience”. It is just different for everyone

Post # 30
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Bee Keeper

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futuresmith4 :  Yeah it’s not like in the movies (lol thankfully! too much champagne and frilly shit and girl drama smile )

You’ll prob feel ‘more engaged’ (does that make sense?) once you’ve had the chance to tell everyone. 

Meantime I think your idea of celebrating with your new Fiance is good, just try to keep it light and upbeat, don’t let him feel he let you down in any way or that your proposal was anti-climactic (I’m usually all for honesty/ open communication in a relationship, but occasionally it’s better to keep something to yourself if it’ll only hurt the other person’s feelings). Just a simple suggestion “Let’s go out to our {fave restaurant} and celebrate our engagement” 

Have a little celebration for yourself- take an evening just for you and pamper yourself with a bubble bath, rom com, your fave drink, a home mani-pedi, bridal magazines, whatever floats your boat. Or if you have a best friend or sister that won’t mind gushing over all things wedding with you for one evening, make it a girls’ night. 

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