(Closed) Engagement Without a Ring?

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

NO not at all!!!!

We were planning before we were even engaged!!!!

Is there a ring coming or do you not want a ring? 

The marriage is the important part not the rings or the wedding or anything else so you can do anything you want!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

That is wonderful and shows that you are getting married for the right reasons – you just made my heart smile!!!!!!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

There’s nothing wrong with planning a wedding without a ring just as long as you both are on the same page!!  If he knows and talks about marriage with you, its obviously coming.  There’s nothing wrong with researching online for wedding ideas and of course nothing wrong with talking with other brides on WEDDING BEE!!  This place keeps people sane…at least it does for me!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

i would hold off until official, but then again, ring doesn’t necessarily mean official.  One knee asking “for real” is what I’d consider the real deal!  If you’re there, plan away!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

So did he ‘pop the question’ officially?

My Fiance popped the question without a ring, and then we had a ring made from stones we found on the beach around us.  My mom and his mom were more worried about it then anything so I wear my great-grandma’s ring until the wedding band goes on, they didn’t want a naked finger.  It was a bit easier that way, because people were giving me a look when I said yay I got engaged and there wasn’t a ring, which was really quite annoying so this made it easier to say yay I got engaged and people be immediately excited and then you explain the ring situation as they’re peeking more carefully at your hand and ring.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yes, has he proposed? My husband proposed without the ring and then we got it together. Can you buy an inexpensive “placeholder ring?” 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We started before he “officially” proposed. We knew that we were going to get married so why not at least get things started. We visted venues and decided on other wedding stuff also. We talked and had an understanding so I’m all for the early planning….

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Of course not!  All that matters is if it works for the two of you!

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Not at all…the engagement starts when both of you decide it is what you want and are both aware of that..lol..rings are NOT what makes an engagement.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Not at all!

I wanted to start planning even before I got my ring. But my fiancee didn’t want me to announce about our upcoming wedding till after I got my ring. I waited for a couple of months and by doing that his sister got engaged and made the announcement first before us. Then after we announced ours they think we’re copying them(oh! please)

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Of course not!  It drives me crazy that people think it’s “not official” until there’s a ring involved!  We got engaged and it took us about two months to find the ring. We set the date and I bought my dress all before my ring was ready to be picked up.  

You’re engaged when one of you asks the other to marry you, not when there’s something shiny involved!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Sure you can be engaged without a ring! As long as your guy means it, of course. My ex proposed to me without a ring, and then took it back a few hours later. It wasn’t real, not really a proposal. He was just working himself up. Of course. Ha ha ha.

Yell

Needless to say, I won’t be accepting a proposal that doesn’t involve the financial commitment of a ring, but I also wouldn’t expect my SO to do anything remotely as douchey as my ex. In your relationship I’m certain it’s for real! All that really counts is whether the both of you have truly agreed to commit to a lifetime relationship. 🙂

Post # 16
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We started the planning process before he actually had the ring…it doesn’t hurt to start scouting things out/determining your likes/dislikes, budget, etc!

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