- 8 years ago
- Wedding: January 2012
On the way back home today from my BF’s family’s town, we talked a lot about our upcoming engagement and the timing of the wedding and everything. He says that he wants to propose ASAP, but he just can’t do it yet because of finances. February is the earliest it will happen, but February also seems kind of likely. Who knows.
Anyway, we were talking about timing and such, and I said that I didn’t think it would even be possible to do it before January or February of 2012. Since our other option is waiting until the following autumn (I’m involved in something that requires my presence every single day of every weekend between February and May, and I refuse to get married in Texas in the summer because it would be too dang hot), he said that January 2012 sounds pretty good.
Of course, then we got into the discussion of how long it takes to plan a wedding, and because he’s a boy and boys know nothing, he was shocked to hear that if we want to do it that early, we need to start looking at venues and such now. He said he would be more than happy to start looking and set a date now, even without the official engagement. Yay!
The real problem, however, is that we can’t currently set a budget. I have a job now, yes, but it’s a temporary position, and if they don’t hire me full time at the end of six months, I might be out of a job. He thinks it’s likely that his workplace will offer him a full time, salaried position after the end of next semester, but he doesn’t know that for sure. Thus, since he won’t graduate until August, it’s possible he’ll be jobless between then and the wedding. I know my parents won’t help pay, and though he thinks it’s possible that his might, we just don’t know how much. How can we set a date if we don’t have any sort of job security or clue about the budget?
I’m glad he’s willing to go and start looking at venues, but I just feel so discouraged. It feels like we really can’t do ANYTHING until we have a budget, and I’m not sure we can do that until we both have secure jobs, and by that point, it might be too late! 🙁 Any advice?