(Closed) Engagements that are longer than the actual relationship?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 63
858 posts
Busy bee

I can complain about what ever I damn well please, and the problem we have is that you are trying to shove your religion down our throats

Post # 64
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016


Ladies, please. I do not think Shinytoy meant to offend anyone. But we have hit levels of bad conduct.
Everyone that has posted on this thread has shared some of their personal life, and we are bound to agree, disagree get our feelings hurt and what not, but its a message board!  Keep the good vibes going ladies! ( stop fighting? 🙂 )

Post # 65
1543 posts
Bumble bee

@Shinytoy: You’re not being attacked for being a practicing catholic. You’re getting serious differences of opinion from yours because you’re quoting the Bible, and basically implying that in order for sinners to become non-sinners, we should adhere to the same ideals that you have set forth for yourself. We don’t WANT to adhere to those beliefs. Quoting something you believe in, and wanting someone else to believe in it, isn’t going to change their mind if they don’t care to believe in it. 


Post # 66
6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Darling Husband and I were engaged for longer than we had been dating, but I was just being nice to my sister who was having a long engagement and would have basically disowned me if I got married before her. If I could do it all over again knowing what I know now, I would have let her have the big wedding and done a small destination wedding a few months after getting engaged. Being engaged was the most stressful time in my life and I am so happy it’s all over!!

Post # 67
7429 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Wonderwoman217: word. You said it much better than I would have

Post # 69
3521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Darling Husband proposed after we’d been dating for four months. By our wedding day, we’d been engaged almost two years. I don’t see a problem with it–we wanted time to plan and just enjoy being engaged without having to rush everything. 

Post # 70
132 posts
Blushing bee

To me, engagement means “I intend to marry this person” not “I am actively planning a wedding.”  Guess that’s open to interpretation, though.

I do think that there is nothing wrong with a longer engagement.  I wish fiance and I could have a longer one, but we have scheduling conflicts that prevent us from getting married when I really wanted to.  I had a certain time of year I wanted to get married, and would also like to have more time to save up some money.  This is not the way it worked out, so I will just have to make do. 

I get the point about saving up before getting engaged, but I also don’t think this is practical for everyone.  I had been saving before being engaged, but that money wasn’t specifically earmarked for “wedding” and if I ended up needing it for something else, I used it.  Now that I have a wedding date, I have certain funds set aside just for the wedding that I won’t touch, because I won’t be able to pay for it otherwise.  Fiance isn’t as good with money, so he hasn’t really been saving anything at all.  He is now, though, because we are engaged and I’m not going to pay for this whole thing myself.

I think everyone should do whatever works for them.  That’s all.

Post # 72
9482 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

We got engaged shortly after one year and will be engaged a little under two years. Why?  My choice.  I wanted enough time to plan and save money because we all know that money doesn’t grow on trees.  Now, if the economy was different and there were jobs and enough money to go around, then it may have been a shorter engagement.

Post # 73
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

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