Post # 1
So yesterday, my SO’s sister became engaged! I am genuinely excited and happy for her! First time I can honestly say that about someone getting engaged since I have been waiting, lol. XD;
That said, I’m a little worried now. My SO is supposed to propose in February, and he probably will propose while we’re in Mexico, which is only 18 days away! Everyone is SO excited about his sister’s engagement (She is the first one to get engaged!) and I’m worried we’ll be stealing her thunder. Also, I’m a little worried that since everyone is so pumped for her engagement, another engagement happening less than a month later won’t be exciting…
On one hand, I’ve been waiting quite long myself and I’m so ready to just finally be official… but on the other I’m wondering if I should tell my SO to delay it so that she has more time in the spotlight and we’re not getting engaged so close to each other.
What to you Bees think?
Post # 3
There’s no such thing as engagements being “too close together.” The excitement surrounding engagements tends to wear off in a few days, a week tops, for anyone who’s not the bride or groom. You’ll be fine!
Post # 4
Ditto what Mrs Grape said. As long as you don’t get married on the same day, it’s all good!
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s a big deal at all!!! Now if your weddings were that close, it would be stressful on relatives, but engagments are perfect!
18 days!! YAY!
Post # 6
I agree with the PPs! As you pointed out, you’ve been waiting for this moment, enjoy it when it arrives [in just 18 days!! EEE!].
As others have said, it’d be different if you’re talking the actual wedding, and it was being held the same day or something.
But frankly In My Humble Opinion, if someone got upset and pouted about someone else’s engagement being close to theirs… I’d find it to be a little immature and spoiled of that person.
Heck, some of these SOs plan for months and even years for their proposals! Don’t ask your SO to push it back. You deserve it! 🙂
Post # 7
I got engaged within a week of 5 other couples. It was crazy! I just figured there’s an age you get to when everyone starts getting engaged/married all at once.
And besides, if your brother’s fiancee or brother was upset about the timing…just play dumb about knowing when your fiance is proposing. Say you had no idea!
Post # 8
No reason to delay the engagement! I’m sure she would be just as happy for you and her brother as she is for her own. I think the only thing to be mindful of is the wedding date and impact on relatives. Those are details can can be all storted out after your engagement. 🙂
Post # 9
I wouldn’t worry about it. Hopefully he won’t change his plans because of this thinking! Engagements are totally fine being “close together,” And hopefully she’ll be just as genuinely excited for you as you are for her!
Post # 10
I think people need to get over “stealing the thunder.” I mean, seriously, you’d never be able to do anything if you were always worried about a family member, friend or something. As long as your wedding isn’t on the same day as your SO’s sister, who cares? It’s only SO’s family who will be “affected” and they will be happy for both of you. It’s not like happiness is in short supply and you need to ration it out…
Post # 11
You’ll be fine! That’s almost a month, which is plenty of time.
Post # 12
My brother proposed to his now fiance about a month after I got engaged, so I might have some insight on this one.
I agree that you should not put off your engagement just because they got engaged first…..but you do need to be sensitive. I would make sure to tell them first about your engagement when it happens – don’t let them hear through the grapevine about it. My brother told everyone else in the family first and then let my mom tell me. I was very happy for them and wanted to celebrate with them, but was offended that he wouldn’t tell me himself.
When choosing your wedding date make sure that it is not close to theirs.
this is a very exciting time and 2 weddings in one family is so much fun! It really is fun planning a wedding when someone close to you is going through the same thing!
Post # 13
My brother in law proposed to his girlfriend 2 weeks after my Fiance proposed to me. I think you’ll be totally fine!
Post # 14
@funnybunny: Yeah, I am actually really happy I’ll have someone to talk weddings with, because I already know that my friends won’t want to hear it lol.
Post # 15
(Yay for 18 days!!!)
I don’t think you should worry about it. You will have to take time between the weddings into consideration when you get to that point, but no worries with the engagement.
Such an exciting time! I can’t wait to hear about your vacation!
Post # 16
AHHHHH I had this situation!! I honestly think you need to make your decision based on what kind of girl your Future Sister-In-Law is. A few days after SO and my 5 year anniversary (when I thought he was going to propose) SO’s sister got engaged. About a month into her engagment (now) Fiance told her that he was planning on proposing to me. She FREAKED out! She went on and on about how it is “her special time”. This broke my heart. He ended up waiting 6 months to propose to me.
I really realy hope you Future Sister-In-Law is a realistic down to Earth person. You deserve to be engaged, and I can’t wait for it to happen for you!