Member- Lilycat
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2015
Idk if I’m the only one, but this is how I feel..
I come across a couple women on the opposite side of the spectrum, or like my aunt who didn’t have a ceremony and is a very practical woman who doesn’t flourish in nonsenses. I love her for that because she keeps me grounded [: I am a very “floaty” kind of person. I have a huge imagination, I want to EXPERIENCE LIFE to it’s FULLEST extent and share it with someone who harbors the same feelings.
Being engaged and having a wedding to me isn’t a cause to say I’m “settling down” I personally feel like this is some BIG adventure that we go on to learn and grow and laugh and cry, to figure out who our friends are, and to see our family’s support. I feel like it’s a HUGE foundation in which you build youre’ life on, because you learn new things about people that you wouldn’t have otherwise if you didn’t throw something as spectacular, mind blowing, (obstacle too) in front of them. It doesn’t just involve you.
It involves EVERYONE. Youre fiance, you’re parents, you’re close relatives, you’re friends, you’re grandparents, you see sides to people and even youreself that you wouldn’t see in any other circumstance.
You learn to take the challenges and grow from them.
To so many people being engaged is the next step to a non adventurous life.
To me it’s a HUGE experience that you only get once.
My FI feels the same [: good for me lol
(but he takes things more in stride better than I do. haha)
From my side of the spectrum I can’t see past the “married” part I can’t see it as “any other day” and that I will have “wasted” my time planning this event.
On my side of the spectrum I see it as a huge ordeal, and I overhthink it, and think things too deeply.
While I get advice from family members who got married and they say another totally different thing! I was shocked when both my aunts said it’s not as big of a deal as I think.
I thought after that; that I was the only one who thought being engaged and planning a wedding was a BIG thing. Then I met a family friend of ours who’s also getting engaged and she’s just as excited as I am.[:
So I’m glad I’m not the only one.
So I will ask[: has anyone else experienced this?
Meeting people on the opposite side of the spectrum like I have?
Do you feel the same way as me?
Everyone’s different, all experiences are different, for all I know theres alot of bees out there who feel the same way my aunts do whilst planning their wedding (it’s not that big of a deal, it’ll be just like any other day) or are you like me and you can’t see it? You see it as a big deal?
It bothered me at first when they told me all this, but then I thought, “they forgot.. they forgot how it felt..” So I let it go, and I will continue to be very boistrous and jittery about this whole experience, I am going to soak it in as much as I can[:
What may come, will come. God has a plan for my wedding and I’m sure I’m going to love it<3
