(Closed) England!?!?!?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Bring it up, and GO ALREADY.

To me its a no brainer. The ring will happen. Going to England to see your sister in law getting married? Once in a lifetime event. 

Post # 5
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1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Honestly, if you can afford it, I think you should go.  And without trying to sound too harsh, it sounds quite selfish to say “I would like to be able to go to England, but what about OUR plans to get married”  This is his sister’s wedding, if it means that you don’t get your ring for a few months yet, so be it.   I also would trust your SO that he is responsible enough to manage the finances appropriately in regards to ring payments and/or a possible trip to England.  

I think your SO would possibly resent not being able to attend his sister’s wedding because you wanted a ring now….and that’s not a good way to start out your marriage.   Go and enjoy yourself!  🙂

Post # 6
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10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

What about offering to pay for the trip yourself, like a pre-engagement gift to him? I keep telling my boyfriend that I’m going to get him an awesome present when he gets me the ring, because he wouldn’t let me split the cost or contribute at all so I want to do something nice for him too.

Post # 8
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248 posts
Helper bee

I would put more trust in him and start believing that he has the ring/engagement handled. The proposal is his to plan and put into action and it still sounds like you guys are moving towards that! Relax and trust that it will happen eventually, even if it may not happen as soon as you want it to.

Family is important and I think you guys should go to the wedding. You guys will have a great time and it will be great to spend time with his family. I would talk to him about how you think you both should go but I would NOT bring up anything about your own engagement and I would NOT bring up you questioning if this will delay things because you’re worried he cannot afford the ring. Show that you are happy that you guys have this opportunity to see his family and show that you are happy for his sister for getting married.

Plus, think of it like this: You guys go to the wedding. He watches his sister get married and sees the joy and happiness of it all. He then thinks, “Wow, I want that for Gwen and I.” Proposal follows shortly thereafter. Smile

Post # 10
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66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

GOOOOO! If you aren’t paying for accomodations, just get the weirdest time/cheapest possible flight and go. search like every day to three days for drops in prices and play around with your arrival and departure dates if possible.

How many times in life do you get to go there do that etc? Who knows when you’ll have a semi affordable (no hotel) chance to go back??? As long as you’re relatively secure financially you should totally go. I wouldn’t even bring up the ring or cost of it. Unless it’s really bothering you, then you should be able to tell him. Good luck!

Post # 11
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1088 posts
Bumble bee

Go to England!  Enjoy the wedding!

Aside from this being one of your places to visit, you’ll also be able to spend time with SO’s family.  Who knows, maybe someone will ask him when he’s planning to propose to you and plant that seed in his head?  Wistful thinking, I know.  But it could happen!  🙂

Post # 12
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48 posts
Newbee

Don’t have that conversation.  Just go, enjoy yourself, and he’ll want to marry you even more for NOT bringing it up.  

Guys aren’t stupid.  He knows you’re ready to be engaged and he knows how much rings cost.  He’s already two steps ahead of you and has probably done the math.  Once you have the marriage talk, they know it’s on your radar and that they need to act within a reasonable amount of time.  It only takes ONE discussion to plant your impatience in their brain. He’s aware of the financial dilemma.  Just don’t push it.   

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What if he wants to propose IN England?!?! Not trying to get your hopes up, but that would be soo romantic!

Aside from all that, I hope you guys have fun!

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