(Closed) English/British Bees… Advice on Choosing a Wedding Ring, Pls!

posted 9 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Plain or bling...

    I'm a Brit... go with a plain ring

    I'm a Brit... go with the eternity ring

    Not a Brit... I like plain

    Not a Brit... I llike the eternity ring

  • Post # 62
    5317 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @Rachel631:  Would you be happy wearing an eternity ring on your right hand? Then you could have both worlds…

    If you would really be happier with an eternity ring wedding band though, your FI will probably come around to it… he may not be accustomed to it but he can adjust, and I’m sure that he will want you to be happy with it, first and foremost. 

    I think of this this way… my Fiance and I both have some clothing the other isn’t a huge fan of. We did allow each other to veto some “worst offenders” that we weren’t so attached to. As for the rest? We both realize that the most important thing is that the one wearing it feels good about it! And I really think an eternity ring is really unlikely to be anyone’s “worst offender”… I think he was more just unused to the idea.

    Post # 64
    1180 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 1993

    @Rachel631:  I don’t know the in’s and out’s of your bank account, but if you love the ring (Which you clearly do) then just get it! It seems so cheap for diamonds! Worst case scenario, you can wear it as a RHR. Or, if you decide to use it as a wedding band, at least you have it. You could always sell it at a later date?

    Post # 65
    1887 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I am a UK bee and I personally prefer plain bands. BUT I think you should buy the eternity ring. You clearly love it and remember this is a piece of jewellery you will be wearing EVERY SINGLE DAY for the rest of your life! You don’t want to be looking down at a plain ring and wishing it was something else. Plus I honestly think diamond bands are becoming more common, when I was shopping for an e-ring I saw lots of diamond wedding rings in the high street stores.

    Post # 66
    267 posts
    Helper bee

    Not a Brit but European: get a plain one, you can always get some bling later but the plain one you will love once you’re 85 and watching your great grandchildren:)

    Post # 67
    3572 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @tisposeroperche:  There’s no reason why someone wouldn’t still love their non-plain wedding ring when they’re 85. My grandma’s 97 and still loves her very intricate wedding ring.

    Post # 68
    15 posts
    • Wedding: November 2014

    The eternity is beautiful ! I am a Brit, from London! I will get a big diamond ring for my band definitely even if others don’t like it! I do understand what you mean with British people but I think it depends on your social circle/ where you live. my family in Wales thought my ring was blingy, but at work no-one has commented on “bling” nor have my friends. Go with what you want, what makes you happy when you look at your hand! Best option to go for both 🙂 

    Post # 69
    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Rachel631:  that ring is gorgeous and a bargin, buy it and wear it however you see fit.

    Im a brit and im having two eternity bands as my wedding bands – i love the stacked look that some of the bees have. I have had a few snipy comments about my engagement ring and it being too blingy, but i love it so thats all that matters. 

    Ps, if you dont buy it, where is it and i will buy it ha ha. Its beautiful – enjoy 🙂

    Post # 70
    306 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Kind of off topic but this thread and this thread:-

    Do YOU think a 1ct diamond is "modest"? Just for fun!

    Have really opened my eyes. I’m a Brit and I lived in the UK until I was 21 and really I had no idea that people REALLY thought like this. Admittedly I’m very middle class – my grandparents were considered Nouveau riche – I was public school educated (private school for you US bees) and I have a master’s degree. I also work long and hard hours for every € I make.

    But because I have a few diamonds (not overly large mind you around 1 carat) and drive an “entry level luxury” car some people might think I’m an uneducated Chav and a footballers wife wannabe, although there is nothing chavvy about the way I dress, or speak – or act. If this is really how the rest of the British population think, I’m glad I don’t live in the UK anymore. 

    Post # 71
    1036 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I love the eternity ring with your plain banded solitaire (I’m biased, it’s what my set is!), but I agree with some PP that the one you have pictured in your original post is too chunky with your e-ring. I would get a daintier, thinner eternity, it will look lovely with your e-ring, not overpower it, and perhaps won’t get as much judgement if you really are worried about brits finding it too flashy. (but really get what you want and screw what other people think!)

    Post # 72
    187 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’m British and i have a half princess cut eternity wedding ring and a .71 brilliant cut solitaire And I don’t thing it’s blindly enough haha! Plain is lovely and classic but nothing wrong with a bit of extra sparkle 🙂 

    Post # 73
    1263 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I am an American who likes bands a little plain, but not too boring, and a little blingy, but not too over the top. Would you consider something similar to this? This is what my wedding band will be. It is a half eternity band, and the diamonds are smaller so wouldn’t be as overpowering for your engagement ring like the one you showed.

    Post # 76
    306 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @Rachel631:  Hello Rachel, I had a whole response written out but I decided to delete it because it could be misinterpreted over the internet and it involved talking about British social sctructure – which can be long, exhausting and extremely precarious. As I know too well because in real life people always “get into it” with me because I speak with an Repost accent (received pronunciation) AND I have a double-barrelled surname – you can imagine how fun THAT is in the UK!

    So I’ll just say that your experiences and mine regarding jewelry and peoples attitude to them are different because we are different Smile and our families are different.


    Wear your diamond band and wear it proudly.

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