Enlightening pregnancy books

posted 2 weeks ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

Expecting Better was my favorite pregnancy book by far. It made me feel a lot more relaxed about everything.

As I got closer to delivery, I also really enjoyed reading Ina May Gaskin’s Guide to Childbirth. I didn’t end up having an unmedicated birth, but still found all the stories in there really empowering and informative, and it helped me prepare mentally for what was about to happen.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

I agree that Expecting Better was great. I also really liked Bringing Up Bebe. It’s not a pregnancy book but it was a good read about parenting while pregnant. 

I didn’t read as much as I listened to podcasts like The Birth Hour.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

It’s not pregnancy but once bub was here, Precious Little Sleep has been my baby sleep bible.  I can’t recommend it highly enough – my four month old is doing ten hour stretches at night thanks to that book!

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I second Bringing Up Bebe! I didn’t care as much for the newborn stuff (the vibe of “getting back to normal after childbirth ASAP” didn’t sit super great with me, I’m a little too woo for that), but it had some nuggets we hope to implement, and I thought that the toddler/older kid stuff was GREAT in it. 

I also second Ina May. VERY woo-hooey, but definitely recommend even for the non-woo folks because it gives a totally different perspective on childbirth…we live in a culture where people love to scare the shit out of pregnant people, so reading about ways it can be a positive and empowering experience counteracts that well. 

Slightly woo-but-not-super-woo, I really loved Zen Mamas: Finding Your Way Through Pregnancy, Birth, and Beyond. It’s got some great bits of info on all those things, interspersed with all sorts of birth/postpartum stories. 

Finally, I LOVE “The Birth Hour” so much, I listen to it allll the time. The host is amazing, and actually was specifically trained in how to interview people about personal experiences, so she does a truly great job at asking non-leading questions and being completely non-judgmental. They really do have ALL kinds of births, which is super helpful if/when plans change. I listened every week, but paid special attention to in-hospital water births with midwives, since that was our goal. Now that baby has flipped breech, I’m revisiting all the gentle c-section episodes. 10000/10 recommend. Nothing was more helpful to me in thinking through my birth preferences than listening to so many stories. 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

If you loved Expecting Better like me, I would definitely recommend reading Cribsheet BEFORE the baby arrives, as you won’t have much time afterwards (don’t know what I was thinking there lol).

I also just wanted to give a Public Service Announcement that Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth actually contains some sad personal stories (where the babies or mother die during birth) that I was NOT prepared for and it actually really shook me when I was about to go into labour within the next few weeks. I also found it to have anti-hospital birth undertones which scared me as well. I know that a lot of people love it, which is why I purchased it, so I wasn’t expecting to have this reaction to it. Just wanted to share!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I liked “happiest baby on the block” and if you are going to be a working mama I really liked “the 5th trimester.” These are more about newborn stage. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

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@sapphire27:  Oh wow I don’t remember those parts at all about the babies/mothers dying. Maybe I didn’t read the whole thing or maybe I blocked that part, yikes. I do agree about the anti hospital vibe though. 

With that said I loved both of my hospital births and both of my epidurals lol.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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@emilyofnewmoon:  I think it was in the first section of the book, with all of the personal stories. Some of them had terrible endings and I was very pregnant and not in a place to read them unexpectedly. In particular, the stories I remember insinuated that the babies or mothers who died did so because of hospital malpractice/medical staff not listening to the mother. I also loved my hospital birth and definitely wished I could have gone with an epidural if I had time lol! 

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Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

I’m another fan of “Precious Little Sleep”.  It’s about bringing up baby, not pregnancy.

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Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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@sapphire27:  I seem to remember Spiritual Midwifery having some scary stories, but I downloaded her Guide to Childbirth about 4-5 weeks ago and definitely no scary death stories in that…maybe it was the edition I got? Definitely something good for a possible reader to know about! Anxiety is so high no matter what, unexpected horror stories are no good, be it in real life or in a book. 

Also OP, as someone who did SO MUCH PREP about pregnancy/immediate postpartum (baby is coming Thursday), I’m now panicking a little because I’ve realized that we’ve done no parenting prep lmao. Like we don’t even know how to give a baby a bath, much less parent a human once it’s more than a sleeping/crying/eating blob. My husband and I are downloading “The Danish Way of Parenting” and “The Gardener and the Carpenter” at the recommendation of like minded parent friends…I wish I’d prepared a little less for pregnancy/birth and more for what’s coming, now that we’re staring it in the face…

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Busy bee

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@dianaj17:  The hospital taught us things like bathing, dressing, changing nappies, swaddling ect after I delivered. 

We struggled a lot with settling until our daughter was about 3 months old (she would not sleep off us except very very very late at night/early in the morning), but we were able to get her to take her naps in the cot from that point with some external help. Message me if you’d like some links for the techniques that worked for us.

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Sugar bee

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@dianaj17:  DH and I didnt know how to do shit before we had our first. Even a diaper was a struggle lol. Like pp said the nurses are super helpful and then for everything else there are youtube tutorials and you learn “on the job” lol. 

For baths, we struggled so much with our first with this “minimalist” baby bath contraption thing that goes in the sink. It was slippery and stressful AF. I threw it away before we had our second. We ended up getting a $15 Walmart baby bath that just goes inside the regular bath, and it made everything a billion times easier. Before the cord fell off we would just lie her on a pile of towels in the living room and do a sponge bath right there.

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