- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
I’ve been pretty bummed about missing my long distance fiance but whenever I do find someone who wants to listen to my story, I’m reminded just how lucky I am to have found my other half! 🙂
So, sister bees, please share your love stories and what you love about your SO and what makes all your long distance woes worth it!
I’ll start off!
I have to say that before meeting my SO, I never believed in long distance. I thought that it was possible in theory but was really impractical. I also never believed in the “all you need is love” love stories. I pictured myself with someone who would probably work as hard as I do, someone I would be content with, someone who would support me and our family in a comfortable enough lifestyle, but never the passion filled love that you see in the movies. Boy, was I in for whirlwind!
I met Allen when I starting working in China, and the only reason why I even knew who he was is because he was one of the three boys that were actually taller than me in our entire department, I’m 5’4″.
Even though, I am ethically Taiwanese, I grew up in a small town in the US and never was really attracted to other Asians (possibly because of the lack of them in my town!). Allen was friends with my roommate and would hang out with us in a group every once in a while. I noticed that he was a little different from the beginning, I felt really comfortable around him and found myself doing silly things that I usually only do in front of my close friends. BUT, I never thought of him as anything more than a friend, which is probably why I opened up to him so easily (I’m a runner who never gives boys a chance according to my friends!) He was pretty sneaky and would ask me about my feelings towards relationships and guys masking it as curiousity about how things work in the States.
After a terrible Thanksgiving alone in China, I vowed that I would not be alone for Christmas. However, one by one, all the people that I knew left during that time, including my roommate who assured me would be around. Allen was the only one left… So, naturally I decided to use him as a body around me so I wouldn’t have to be alone. We shared a bottle of wine and was watching a movie on my laptop, but the movie stalled halfway… I don’t know how I got on the topic but I started talking about my travels and one of my favorite songs and what the words meant to me. I could tell that he wasn’t listening to a single word I was saying, but I didn’t care since I just didn’t want to be alone… And…. he kissed me!
Super forward for anyone that knows the Asian culture. I was shocked, but then I kinda liked it! Following that night, he ignored me for a month and I was really confused, thinking I didn’t even like you and you kissed me, so what’s the problem?! After a month, I went on a short trip and when I came back, he told me he missed me and wanted pursue a relationship.
I relented telling myself that I would only be in China for 5 more months (I ended up staying for 11) and he was a nice guy… Little did I know, this butthead had been watching me for a while and once he took his month break to decide if we could really work (he’s a thinker), was making moves to make me fall in love with him!
Everything after that was history. I literally fell head over heels despite everything I did to try not to. I’ve never imagined EVER, that I could love someone this much, and share everything with someone.
We have been going on 14 months long distance with only seeing each other for 10 days about 7 months ago. I get to see him again for 20 days in the middle of January, and we are in the process of filing the K-1 visa for him to come to the States!
Our situation is everything that I was always so cynical about when talking to other people. He’s younger than me, He’s 23, I’m 26. I have a better job, education and lifestyle, as he is not from the rich class in China and there are only two classes–rich and poor. We are a bagillion miles away from each other. He’s Asian, which I never thought I would be into! lol
But… He makes me the happiest I have ever been. I can talk to him about anything. And despite the world seeing the assertive, career oriented, outgoing woman, he sees the insecure, needy, little girl that needs love and reassurance. He helps me stabilize my constant rollercoaster of emotions, always makes me feel safe, and we laugh so much together.
I can’t believe that this kind of love exists, and honestly didn’t believe it until I met him and am so happy and ready to spend our lives together!
I could go on and on, but this is already super long! Sorry 🙂
I’m excited to hear your stories ladies!